To tell him I’m moving away?

[couldpulloffmyownface]

One night stand. Slept with him about two months ago. We kept in contact, keep saying we are going for round two...

I haven’t replied to his texts in a couple of weeks, and now if I did it would be to tell him I’m moving away in three weeks (200 miles away).

If I get in touch, we’ll inevitably end up in bed again, which I kind of want but I’m wondering if I should just leave it... it’ll be me that ends up hurting in the long run. I’ve definitely got feelings for him that he doesn’t have for me. Find I’m thinking about him most days.

I don’t know if I should leave it at one night because of that, or get in touch, and put up with the consequences... it would be just sex to him, he was clear on that and also that I wasn’t the only person... whereas for me it would be feeling loved. I don’t know if it’s a good idea, because of that mismatch.

If I don’t tell him how the heck do I forget him?

Don’t contact him. He doesn’t appreciate you and therefore he doesn’t deserve your attention.

Don't do it because it sounds as though somewhere deep inside you're hoping he'll show some sort of emotion or disappointment.

Far better to just leave it and move on.

it would be just sex to him, he was clear on that and also that I wasn’t the only person...

Please get yourself to an STI clinic.

And fuck him off.

You'll forget him soon enough moving away, meeting new people etc.

Please get yourself to an STI clinic.

That's such a patronising thing to say to a grown adult.

She hasn't said they didn't use protection?

STI clinics would be bursting at the seams if everyone went there as a matter of course, after every one night stand.

Unfortunately he's made his feelings clear

He’s been clear. You like him more so you’ll just feel hurt. It will drive you mad for a while but you’ll have a new life to get going with. Focus on that instead. What fun things you’re going to do in the new place etc. new people to meet too…….. 😉 Fuck ‘im (except don’t 😂)

This.

It was one night. Don’t contact him, move and move on with your life

Please don’t message or shag him again. It’s already taking up too much of your headspace and he sounds like a loser / player. Those types are pros for getting under your skin.

move away and then message goodbye if you have to but concentrate on your exciting move for now.

Whether you agree with the concept of limerence or not you might find some helpful advice on the subject for getting over someone.

But put your energies into your move and making your new life as full and enjoyable as possible, so you don’t find yourself feeling this way about a bloke who’s not good for you again.

I think you’re all correct yes, shagging him again won’t help how I’m feeling in the long run, it will only make it worse! It was very definitely just sex to him, he was clear he had a couple of FWB relationships (ethical non monogamy or something like that).

It’s a difficult one as up to him I’d only ever had really bad experiences of sex (forced); he was the first time I actually enjoyed it and felt safe, wanted etc.

I will do, will focus on new life and new job etc 😁 thank you!