To think some people never, ever get found out?

[neverwrongme]

I will try and keep it brief.

Family fall out sometime ago. Instigated, caused, made worse, by one member of the family and their adult child.

They have been able to manipulate the rest of the wider family into believing it absolutely was not their fault.

Other family members have been blamed and basically cut out of the wider family.

It has now, today, happened again. With another part of the wider family.

Will these trouble makers ever get found out?

Will these trouble makers ever be held accountable?

Of will they just go around living life leaving a trail of upset behind them?

Will the gullible who fell for their lies ever wake up?

Anyone have experience of this?

Yep, have been on the receiving end of this in the family for years. And also at work…but today I resigned to get away from it; very sad to leave a job I love but better to be away from the toxicity that others can’t or won’t see.

Life is unfair, and often bullies win. It's why we all love the movies so much, because the underdog wins and the bad guys get their comeuppance. In real life this is rarely true, more often than not the bullies and bad guys do well. All too often the victim is scapegoated, and shit rises

Just cut them off. Don't get bogged down in arguments. A simple "none of this is true" and "this is not a healthy relationship for me so I won't be contacting you again" and walk away.

Yes, you’re right. People believe what they want to believe, see what they want to see. I wouldn’t even begin to try to explain what my one family member is like behind closed doors because I’d be seen as a trouble maker and it would backfire. He’s a controlling, manipulative narcissist, miserable, self pitying and entitled. No one would believe it as he’s so outwardly charming and convincing.

People often do reveal themselves if they think they've 'won'. Their masks can slip. Seen this recently with a family member.