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Confessions of a....

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Applescruffle · 25/04/2024 15:32

Taxi driver? Nurse? Wedding dress shop owner?

Tell us your job and your confessions/inside secrets.

I'm expecting a few name changes!

Disclaimer: I know this isn't really a AIBU but I thought it would be fun/interesting

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Caroparo52 · 26/04/2024 00:19

Confessions of rental accommodation owner.. yup we judge you on the number of empties you consume and how filthy you leave the place

MegsNaiceJam · 26/04/2024 00:29

Confessions of a school governor.

out there, probably at your child’s school, are the most dedicated, hard working people doing their best for your child. They never get any praise from families. Amongst them will be lazy staff, just like in every workplace (journalism eh, OP) and it lets the rest of the team down. I wish more people could see the largely thankless work some school staff (not just teachers) put into their working lives. If you are one - thank you.

VyeBrator · 26/04/2024 01:09

MegsNaiceJam · 26/04/2024 00:29

Confessions of a school governor.

out there, probably at your child’s school, are the most dedicated, hard working people doing their best for your child. They never get any praise from families. Amongst them will be lazy staff, just like in every workplace (journalism eh, OP) and it lets the rest of the team down. I wish more people could see the largely thankless work some school staff (not just teachers) put into their working lives. If you are one - thank you.

“They never get any praise from families”

What never? Not from any families?

That’s a strange school. Most parents at least give a card at Christmas or a thank you card/present at the end of the school year.

WearyAuldWumman · 26/04/2024 01:33

Laiste · 25/04/2024 15:46

TA

Teachers do talk about the parents in the staff room.

And your kids talk about you. A lot !

You'd be horrified ... i was. I def started wondering what the hell my 4 might be saying
😂

Had a parent who complained that I was bullying her child. Would not believe all the evidence to the contrary: "My child never lies."

The child to her entire class: "My mum's a slut. She got pregnant with me at 15."

MegsNaiceJam · 26/04/2024 01:41

VyeBrator · 26/04/2024 01:09

“They never get any praise from families”

What never? Not from any families?

That’s a strange school. Most parents at least give a card at Christmas or a thank you card/present at the end of the school year.

don’t think it is strange. It is a deprived area, people can’t afford it and it is secondary, so in my experience less likely than in primary where children made cards for teachers. However I am also talking about other staff, not just teachers and TAs. School bursars, site staff, technicians, IT support.

Spencer0220 · 26/04/2024 02:06

JohnBetjeman · 25/04/2024 17:07

Confessions of a Poet and Writer.

Actually, I rather like Slough.

Yay!! So do I!

AppallinglyReheated · 26/04/2024 04:33

Slough smells like Mars Bars, well bits of it do. I liked those bits.

Confessions of a kitchen porter...

When you complain that the pepper sauce on your steak is too peppery, you better believe we just ran it under the tap and stuck it back in the pan to reheat it, we did not bring you a new one.

When you grope/jeer at/leer at/make suggestive comments to the waiting staff - please know that the next item out of the kitchen for your table almost certainly contains bodily fluids or was handled with 'bum fingers'.. (they are exactly what you imagine them to be)...

And when you send back a perfectly cooked bit of fish claiming it is 'dry' after eating half of it, but our waiting staff heard you moaning that your friends bit looked bigger so you're sending this one back and then you might see if you can get the whole meal comped...

Guess where your new bit of fish spent five minutes 'marinading' before it hit the pan... the Chefs crotch was particularly piquant that day...

I don't miss it, they were a vengeful lot indeed... it also took me a loooooong time before I ate out again (and NOT THERE!)..

RegenOfficer · 26/04/2024 08:03

SeanBeansMealDeal · 25/04/2024 23:49

That's pretty much the same excuse that's used for charging people visiting hospitals through the nose for parking.

If you provide enough free parking for a maximum 1 or 2 hours, to give all of the shoppers a chance to make use of it, how are commuters going to work around that one? Nobody is suggesting that you have to make it completely free of all restrictions; just free of charge.

It's especially irritating if you have to pay for a minimum of 30 minutes or an hour when it's the kind of shop that people pop in and out of in less than 5 minutes for one or two items. It's not even just the cost of the parking, but the faff of having to buy and display a ticket that takes you longer to do than the time you actually need to be there for.

Thats a good point. Where we are you can park for free at any of the supermarkets 2 mins walk from the market place for up to two hours.

unfortunately free parking (we offer free parking from 4 onwards I think) still require a ticket so the enforcement officers know when you started (or do it on the app) because not everywhere has ANPR

6Y5T · 26/04/2024 08:13

Confessions of a self employed fire safety officer.

The knowledge I have could shut down at least 8 hospitals in London alone due to non compliance.

These could be issues with paperwork through to 1 hospital with no working fire alarm covering the ground floor (been like this for at least 12 months).

SeanBeansMealDeal · 26/04/2024 09:22

RegenOfficer · 26/04/2024 08:03

Thats a good point. Where we are you can park for free at any of the supermarkets 2 mins walk from the market place for up to two hours.

unfortunately free parking (we offer free parking from 4 onwards I think) still require a ticket so the enforcement officers know when you started (or do it on the app) because not everywhere has ANPR

Ah, we still have old-fashioned traffic wardens in our town!

Applescruffle · 26/04/2024 09:25

AliceKyteler · 25/04/2024 23:59

Yep, the "tell us" was a bit of a giveaway. Ye gods you lot are lazy.

I am not a journalist. I've posted loads on here. I'm just a normal person. Honest guv.

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Applescruffle · 26/04/2024 09:30

Confessions of someone who is not a journalist:
Actually I've always quite fancied being a journalist 😂

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SeanBeansMealDeal · 26/04/2024 09:33

I think it's just the faff that people can't be bothered with, with parking. If you can't just pull up and park, use the shop and then drive off, it deters you from going in the first place.

Many shops would be a lot more profitable if customers had faff-free unrestricted (for a reasonable time) parking outside - which could then increase their rateable value and increase the business tax-take for the council - from them and from the no-longer-empty shops.

Especially considering that, with Amazon and the like, not only do you not have to leave your armchair, but they've even removed the extra faff of having to enter your card details every time!

There's an enormous out-of-town shopping centre in a town near us with thousands of car parking spaces on-site. They could rake in tens of thousands of pounds every single day with even a modest charge for parking; but they don't - every space is completely free, for as long as you want to use it. I can only assume that they've analysed the situation and realised that it's more profitable for them overall to offer all that free parking.

I do take the point that online shopping has had a devastating effect on the High Street - all those billions that are spent online haven't just come from down the back of the sofa; but I still think there's a vital place for the High Street in 2024 - which is threatened greatly by unavailable/expensive/over-restrictive parking.

MermaidEyes · 26/04/2024 09:41

@AppallinglyReheated that reminds me of a video doing the rounds a while back where a woman takes a sausage and sticks it where she shouldn't then puts it on the plate 🤢

Wizadora2 · 26/04/2024 09:43

JohnBetjeman · 25/04/2024 17:07

Confessions of a Poet and Writer.

Actually, I rather like Slough.

Pls explain 😬

Dareisayiseethesunshine · 26/04/2024 09:43

Confessions of a cleaner...
Once arrived to clean a man's home.. He had obviously forgotten I was coming by the Anne Summer's collection he had left on the bedside cabinet....

Wizadora2 · 26/04/2024 09:51

Wizadora2 · 26/04/2024 09:43

Pls explain 😬

Actually I have just googled Slough poem and found the answer!

Applescruffle · 26/04/2024 10:41

Confessions of a home improvements company/tradesperson:

Things we've heard from other tradies but would never do, TW: some of these are really horrible and racist.

A plasterer who went to the shops specially to buy a pack of bacon and then plaster it into the walls of a Muslim family's house just because he was that islamaphobic
Plenty of tradies who won't work with "foreigners"
Plenty that turn up to quote and then never send the quote because its a "foreigner" and they will assume they don't have them money or will try and haggle.
Also: it's not that uncommen for tradespeople to do things like open your fridge and take a swig out of your milk bottle or have a quick wank in your bathroom.

Things we have done:
Climbed up a ladder to the bathroom and accidently caught the customer on the toilet and then quickly climbed back down before they noticed.

Noticed your house is super disgusting and judged you for it. I'm not talking a bit of mess, I'm talking things like dog/cat shit inside the house and crusty 3 week old plates in the kitchen. Tradies will take pictures of shit like this and share it in tradespeople Facebook groups all the time.
We judge you if you don't offer tea. Always offer tea.

Things we don't do:
Lie about whether or not we can do the job or whether or not it's an easy fix. I don't know anyone who does this, and you can so easily get caught out if you do. Google is readily available. Customers value honesty.
Go through your underwear drawer, cupboards, private spaces. I don't know anyone who has done this.
Not turn up on time because we can't be bothered. We are genuinely doing our best. Jobs overrun, sometimes weather slows you down, sometimes customers slow you down.

Finally:

If you can't find someone who wants to do your job it's probably because it's either too small and not worth the bother for anyone, or because you have come across as really difficult or really tight. Never post a job saying "I want this as cheap as possible" no quality trades will respond, not because they want to overcharge you but because they think you won't want to pay the going rate or you will want to cut corners and use crappy materials you found in a skip.

Always remember when you use sites like checkatrade, mybuilder: The reviews are 99% real and verified, most of the people are genuine too but you are NOT the customer. The tradesperson is their customer. You are the product. They are going to want to keep the tradesperson happy, not you.

Please, please pay your invoices on time. You are causing so many problems for the company/sole trader by messing with their cash flow and maybe even holding up the job for the next customer. If there's a problem or you don't understand the invoice, say something, don't wait for them to chase you.

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unintended101 · 26/04/2024 10:47

Ex scientist: most publications are crap or repeats.

There's a huge amount of pressure to publish and big up your claims. You need to sell yourself as much as your work. Those who want quality over quantity struggle or are pushed out.

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 26/04/2024 10:49

heldinadream · 25/04/2024 15:41

Retired psychotherapist.
We're all nuts. Clients, clients' families, non clients, me, you, all of us. No exceptions.

Ex counsellor. The nuttiest people I ever met were those I trained with.

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