To think that Social Media stops people moving on ?

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Facebook, instagram etc so easy to look up exes , friends we fell out with , toxic ex work colleagues , estranged family and them bam ! Those old feelings ignite again !

Pre internet days I think it was easier to put the past behind you and these people then became ghosts .

I agree

Just don't look them up. Social media doesn't stop you from moving on, you do.

Not really.
These things take time anyway.

This.

Just block them.

Or better still don't live your life on social media.

In olden days those people probably still lived in your village and you'd see them in the corner shop most days.

How does social media force your fingers to type in your ex's name?

I just don’t look up people I don’t want to know/hear about. Simple. De-friend, block if necessary, done.

I agree it makes it easier to avoid moving on, but it's easily resolved, all social media platforms have a block/hide/unfollow function.

Just block them if you don’t want to see there posts or think your at risk of looking them up. Just takes some willpower that’s all

I agree but the temptation is still there .

Only if you look them up?

Delete, block and move on.

Nope. There's no need to look someone up unless you want to

It's a lack of willpower

I agree with you OP

I split up with my first love many years ago, long before social media. Instantly losing any contact with him, his friends and family was brutal. I hated it

But, with hindsight, I think it probably did help to move on quicker

I've never looked up an ex

Nah, I've never done that, I can't be arsed to think about the past, they're there for a reason. Finished.

No, it's much easier now as we are likely to live further away from where we grew up. You don't have to spend your adult life tripping over people you dated in high school etc.

I've never looked up an ex because I'm happy with my choices and I have complete control over what I look up.

As Edna Mode says, "I never look back, darling. It distracts from The Now."

I agree OP.

It's temptation when times are a bit shit. A few glasses of grog and a couple of clicks and there you are.

Great that lots can fend off the urge - but i'm willing to bet that there are an equal number who can't/don't.

I remember when Friends Reunited started up. DH and i both had the opinion: 'If you've lost touch with someone that completely it wasn't that great in the first place. Don't look back'.

Not for me. I use it to stay in touch with people I wouldn't otherwise see. Former colleagues, friends and acquaintances who live a long way away etc. There's not one contact I have on social media that I've had conflict with, or have problematic feelings about. Just unfollow them, or don't look them up in the first place!

That's why my other half says . If you really to wanted to stay in touch you would have done

Yes exactly

A lot of tech and medical advances should come with the proviso of just because you can, doesn't mean you should.