My friend is obsessed with OLD

[OLDboredom]

Name change for this just in case she reads it (unlikely but you never know!)

My close friend is back on the OLD, having recently split up with someone that she previously met on OLD.

And to be blunt, she's boring the pants off of me! Everytime I see her, all she can talk about is the messages she's received and dates she's had. I think she exhausted all the "amusing" stories about OLD from the first time around and I don't really care now who she's seeing tomorrow, or what gross things yet another toad has said to her (and I say, just because someone is a toad, you don't have to kiss them as it's a fair bet that they WON'T turn into your Prince Charming if you do). I do try to introduce other topics of conversation but atm it's all about the dating.

WIBU to say something to her? We're quite close and I'm thinking of something along the lines of how much fun we used to have when talking about everything BUT OLD- but I'd welcome any suggestions of how to phrase this without hurting feelings, or other suggestions of what to say.

YABU: Listen to her, suck it up, it won't go on for ever (surely it can't?)
YANBU: Say something. No-one needs to know every last detail about someone else's dates.

i feel like people are gonna be arses on this thread but i hope not

i fully get you, i have a friend who does exactly the same. she only ever talks about her dating life and who she's matched with and their entire backstories and the dates she's been on and the silly reasons they gave her the ick and it's exhausting to listen to
we've stopped hanging out with her a bit because that's the whole conversation when she's around and no ones having fun

i feel like people are gonna be arses on this thread but i hope not

-- well, it's entirely possible but I hope not too.

I care a lot about my friend and our friendship but it's not fun at the moment!

I had a chat from my mum about why I should join clubs and “do stuff” because even if I met women then they have brothers and sons and these people could introduce me to nice men. I had to point out as a sister and a daughter my brother, sister and parents had never once introduced me to any guys. My point is as a single person you can’t rely on your friends or family to bother to introduce you to anyone so you have to go it alone. And you know what, when you are alone trying to find someone takes up a hell of a lot of time and mental space.

If you don’t want to help your mate out and introduce her to a few of your husbands mates then fine, but don’t be surprised when most of her free time is spent trying to find a partner so that is the main thing she has to talk about at the moment.

By the way coupled-up, married or kid chat is just as boring for the other side to listen to.

I miss the days my friends would organise a dinner party and invite a couple of single chaps along. Something might come of it, great fun and you knew the guy had been vetted. Doesn’t seem to be the thing nowadays…but to not even be able to talk about dating trials and tribulations???

Huh what are friends for… I mean really, if they don’t introduce you to people and you can’t speak to them about what’s going on in your world…literally what are you for?

Part of the reason she's still single might be because she has nothing to talk about. I had a friend like this for a while. She had other conversation but it was excruciating listening to her talk about the men in her life continually and trying to get her to change the subject. Friendship is more than offloading.

I can't introduce to her "my husband's mates" because I don't have a husband! 😂

This. I‘m a man and I’ve been on several dates with thoroughly dull people - but I’m sure there’s plenty of dull men out there too.

If she just has this one topic of conversation, I agree it’s no surprise she’s single.

Op are you single or partnered up?

Im in a same-sex LTR. So no men around!

And to clarify, my friend isn't normally boring in the slightest, we are both intelligent and we talk about anything and everything except when the OLD rears its head!

I wouldn’t have thought she is boring. Just OLD takes up an awful lot of headspace and time. If mates won’t introduce people to others, then needs must and people OLD, but the time investment can dominate your life. Particularly if rather than looking for a shag you are trying to shift through all the chaff to find a partner.

Pardon my ignorance, but what does 'OLD' stand for?

On Line Dating.