To think this is really effing hard?!

[Pipiscoming2023]

Just being a mum. That’s it really.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my baby to pieces.

But it is so so much harder than I ever imagined.

The long, long days. They feel like they will never end sometimes. The screaming. The lack of sleep. The trying to juggle absolutely everything (I’m freelance so am trying to work too). The breastfeeding struggles - especially as she has allergies.

I knew having a baby wasn’t going to be a walk in the park but I am exhausted. My DH is great but he’s also exhausted and works 12 hour days (also freelance). We hired a cleaner to help but found trying to get the house tidy before she came was even more stress (and money we just don’t have spare really).

Neither of us has any support either in terms of parents/family and so it often feels so isolating. Now I know why they say it takes a village!

She’s coming up to 5 months and I know it’s probably not ever going to get easier, but AIBU to think motherhood is actually really, really bloody hard?!

I think it's untrue to say it never gets easier, there's highs and lows, and which age will be which is different for everyone. I actually loved mine at 2, found it an adorable age.
Yes though, it can be very hard, especially of your baby screams a lot and doesn't sleep. I've been there and it was grim, toddler was so much better. Best of luck

It is hard.
I was born to be a mom and it’s the greatest blessing but yes it’s so hard.
however, there will definitely come a time where you think.. wow.. it was hard but now it feels like it was so worth it - wait til baby is a bit older, 6-7 year olds can be amazing - or can be hard work.
teenagers the same…
every stage has its ups and downs. but my life it is worth it!

You’re in the worst bit! Hang in there.

I hated the baby stage. Weird mixture of exhausting and stressful but also lonely and dull.

Older kids are SO much better IME. Even 6 months was an improvement and by 10 months she was a little interactive person and much more fun. And it’s been upwards since then - not that DD was an easy toddler or young child, she very much wasn’t, but it was still preferable to have a talking walking child than a baby!

Oh gah just seen it’s an old thread bumped by some bloody advertiser.

Hopefully you are enjoying it more now OP!

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