To take my child out of school

[Raspberryyy9]

DD is in reception. The same child regularly is hurting her, hitting, pushing her over and off play equipment and now she has been bitten and has a mark. I talk to the teacher but it still keeps happening so I don’t know what to do as I’m worried

Make a complaint and ask how the school plan to keep your child safe.

If you have got nowhere with the teacher you go to the next level up, the key stage lead or ht.
Ask what they will do to keep your child safe.

Ask to see the complaints procedure it’s about parents rights to complain.

If she broke the skin she may need to go to A and E -

What are you doing to safeguard my child ?

that’s the q

They can’t. They can’t keep this kid in a glass tank, they will always be within hitting/kicking/biting distance of their peers.

Are you being told about these incidents from the teacher or is DD telling you OP? Does she have slips to tell you she’s received medical treatment - aka cold compress etc?

I’d log the dates and injuries. Speak to the head. There should be a policy, at DDs school even children in reception could be suspended for hurting others repeatedly.

That’s not true. I have worked with several children in mainstream that can’t stay in class. They are educated separately.

Thanks all @MalibuBarbieDreamHouse She does have injury forms for head bumps and then tells me what has happened but teacher has told me at parents evening that this child is quite bossy towards her. Not received one for the biting injury but it’s very clearly a bite and has bruised

Did DD tell anyone that she had been bitten? I would make sure DD knows she needs to tell an adult if someone hurts her. It can be hard for teachers to address incidents with children that happened the previous day, but no child should go home with bruises or bite marks.

But OP can’t request that they’re educated separately (as far as I’m aware)

Thank you I’ve spoke to her about telling a teacher but I think she is lacking the confidence to do it. She can be quite reserved at times and I think that’s why this particular child is picking on her, I think she’s quite boisterous and bossy. The teacher picked up on this but I think it has escalated

First off I would ask for the form for the bite injury. It needs to be part of their records.

Next I would go to the head teacher with the list of incidents and ask how they are going to keep your child safe going forward. And the answer is NOT keep your child inside/separate her from her peer group in anyway - she is the victim here.

Next I would download the complaints procedure - or ask for a copy in the office that can often wake a few folk up - and follow it with regard to them not keeping your child safe in school (they cannot answer to you about the other child).

You need to become 'that parent' for a while so that it is 'easier' to keep this bully away from your kid than have to constantly deal with you. At the moment your child being the victim is keeping the peace on the rest of the classroom. Don't let bullies loose her her education - or self confidence especially at her age.

So you are still at the teacher stage.

Next step is talk to the head.
Then formal complaint. Find the schools policy on safeguarding/bullying and make sure it's being followed.
Then you go over the head and to to the governors.

Taking your child out of school is daft at this stage.

Follow up properly with procedures first.

There's a huge range of things the school can do that between nothing and keeping the aggressor child in a glass tank.

If they are keeping records they can look for triggers, is it all happening at playtime for example. Then the aggressor child could have interventions at playtime from a TA/break supervisor, etc. Is it happening in the lunch queue? If it is, keep them separate, etc etc.

If it's all happening in the classroom, keep them seated far apart and supervise aggressor child if they are free flow. It's not impossible to do at all, and should be already happening.

Ask for a more formal meeting with the teacher rather than just in passing or put it in writing on whichever online platform they use for parents.

This is good advice.

@Raspberryyy9 You need to be taking this a LOT further. You say that your daughter can be quiet and reserved, and you’re right that that’s probably the reason the bully is picking on her, but it’s all the more reason to make sure YOU are her voice. She needs to see that you are fighting her corner and doing something about this as clearly the teacher isn’t doing enough.

The fact that they hadn’t even documented the bite incident/given you an accident form is disgusting, I’d be fuming if that happened to my child.

And what did the teacher say they would do about the fact that this particular child can be quite ‘bossy’ towards your child? They’ve obviously noticed it is an issue

The teacher has been saying for a while that they will keep an eye on them but that’s all that gets said. I did ask her today had she told the teacher and she didn’t say much but later in the evening she said she had told the teaching assistant and she had sat her on her lap. So I’m really wondering why nobody has told me or why it hasn’t been logged