Friend constantly moans about her weight and does nothing about it

[CheerUpFFS]

I appreciate weight loss is so, so difficult for some. Without giving too many outing details my friend has the money, time, resources and now incentive to lose weight ( has been diagnosed pre diabetic this week ) and I'd genuinely say every single day I've known her for about 3 years she has mentioned her weight and some sort of fitness goal that she's never actually worked towards. There's often tantrums when she gets frustrated with her lack of effort and I used to empathise but it's all the time. So far the most we have managed exercise wise in our friendship is a dog walk together. My dog walks very slowly and she sits down with hers during it for quite a while then always wants to get a takeaway snack or milkshake after. I'm not the food police, I don't care at all but I can't give advice as I would to other friends ( for e.g my best friend would laugh and ask me what the fuck I'm doing) as she gets very defensive. I'm fed up with constantly listening ( you can't change the subject as it will be bought back to her weight ) and offering advice and solutions in the kindest way I can, always focusing on health benefits and agreeing by saying yes she will feel better if she loses weight and never yes you will look better when she asks very direct questions like 'I need to lose weight don't I', never ever bringing it up myself but it's exhausting and quite depressing. I have suggested many times workouts we can do together and will go out of my way to assist no matter what class or activity it is or expense but I think ultimately she needs to motivate herself and get on with it now. Has anyone ever actually had any success in helping someone out or is my friend just wanting to moan? I really don't get it, the help is there and the incentive now and its hard for me to keep hearing this. Do I just say it's time for you to get on with it now?

Diet chat is as boring as fuck. Particularly when you have to listen to it and be supportive knowing they won’t ever do anything about it. 🥱

It's sooo dull. There's nothing I can do to help someone else body, it's theirs and irs polite to engage but seems futile in this circumstance.

YANBU. You need to tell her that you’re bored of all the diet talk.

Or tell her that it’s not helping your own approach to your health.

I have a friend I've known 20 years. In all that time she has been on a diet. Food is all about being good or naughty. She pays for one of those slimming clubs. She has only ever gained weight as far as I can tell.
I never say anything.

I think a lot of people can identify with constantly thinking about wanting and needing to lose weight but somehow being stuck. Most people who are like this probably won't talk about it all the time as they know others find it frustrating, but they just think it to themselves. I think that it's a type of disordered thinking, a bit like rumination or compulsive thoughts her eating is probably disordered and its a vicious cycle because all the worrying about it actually makes her want to eat more which makes the worrying worse and so on. She actually needs to break the cycle which is hard to do.