Ex refusing to have DS overnight

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ex has moved in with his brother following our separation. We have 3 kids he has agreed to have the oldest two overnight but not the youngest as there isn’t enough space.

Apologies if this sound selfish but I will never have a night off or a break until he gets a council property but that could take months/ years.

Am I just supposed to accept this for what it is?

I have made suggestions of setting the living room up for the oldest on a Saturday night (blow up bed) and youngest could sleep in his bed.

AIBU?

What was the housing situation when you were together? If you owned, I assume you bought him out. If private rent it will be more difficult for him as he won’t get any housing benefit/UC as a single man and will be expected to live in shared accommodation.

They won't list him as a priority because the resident parent claims the child benefit. They don't have to give him more than an1 bedroomed flat.

If you claim the cb he can't put them down on his housing

What age are they

I still don't get why 2 can't share a bed if not all 3 in a double /king or one on blow up bed and ex on sofa

I don't agree in bed sharing with parents if the child has no choice in the matter - there should be no expectation that any child will share there parents bed or even siblings just to suit the decisions of others

He will only ever be entitled to a 1 bed unless he becomes the resident parent. If he can't make it work now then it's unlikely he ever will. I suspect he won't though and there is no way of forcing him.

At the very least he needs to rotate which kids he has, then you'll still be parenting but will not be all toddler all the time , nice for you to have one on one with other kids too.

Call his bluff and have 3 dc ready for collection complete with a 30 quid ready bed..

I think you accept that you are not going to get a night "off"

What a bellend!!