33, is it a special age?

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Were you happy at 33, at your happiest around this age-30-33? Curious as it’s said to possibly be a time when people were/are the happiest

At 33 , I got it together with my current partner, left my unhappy marriage and made loads of new friends (at a fitness activity I started) many of whom I am still very close with 15 years later. It was a very happy age.

I've been happy at most ages, I wouldn't say 33 was especially so.

It was a good age for me. I'd been with my lovely dh 5 years, had a lovely baby and would still have 14 years with dh until he died. (Same age as me)

Currently 33 and pregnant. Will have had my first child before I turn 34 so yeah, I'd say I'm pretty happy! I think 30 is when I finally actually felt like a 'grown up'. Same house, same job, same relationship but just in my self I felt like a reached a level of maturity I hadn't been in previously.

I think I was happiest at 30-33, life was falling into place. I achieved alot the year I turned 30 and DD was a very happy easy going child. DD is still very lovely but the start of high school was challenging what were quirks became problematic and an autism diagnosis later I worry about her alot now. Whilst she is ok I have to think carefully about the things we do, when we do them, if it's going to be noisy, if she's going to need time on the following day to chill etc it's very low-key compared to many but I definitely get decision/responsibility fatigue now which wasnt as much of a problem when she was younger.

Not really I gave birth for the first time just before I turned 33 and I had PND so felt like shite.

Unfortunately not a great time for me:
I was in an abusive marriage (left him twice - 2nd time for good thankfully)
Navigating separating from my abusive husband and the confusion that followed straight after it
Car accident in which I broke a vertebra in my back (still got back pain from it a year and a half later)

I turn 35 this year and can safely say, 34/35 are better/going to be better than 33!

Yes, it’s ridiculous.
I spent age 33 wanting to die for most of it. The late miscarriage I mentioned. I was never suicidal, but every day I’d think, “if I could just die in my sleep tonight, I wouldn’t have to feel this empty and physically pained.”
So nice to know the universe would fuck me over by making that permanent 🤨

Just as well that when we die we just die, huh? 😉

I've always considered 27 to be my happiest age. However, when I look back now...it was certainly my 'most fun' age, but I was actually pretty self-destructive and fairly unhappy, deep down.

I'm 38 now and whilst life is a daily slog, I'm probably my most content and secure. I have no massive worries or things keeping me awake at night.

Sadly, I think many of us wait for this 🔅HAPPY🔅 stage to come along and are discontent when it doesn't arrive. But for me, when I put some real thought into it, contented is actually a pretty good feeling and I'm glad that I have it.

The Norwegians apparently have a saying that translates roughly to "I'm awake and not crying".

Every day I wake up and am not crying is a good day as far as I'm concerned. And even then, even if I am crying, waking up is still preferable to the alternative (at least, it has been so far!)

If souls are supposedly immortal, how the heck do they have an age? And why the age when we are the happiest? And why on earth 33, the age when most people are either wracked with anxiety because they don't have kids and time is running out, or wracked with anxiety because they just did have kids and small kids are stressful?😂

It wasn't a great age for me because DD2 was about 1 1/2 and her dad ran away and left the country to avoid paying maintenance, although he continued to bombard me with abusive emails accusing me of all sorts of abuse and unspecified "bad choices" (he had tried to pressurise me to abort). I was stuck renting a property owned by family who treated me like crap because they held me responsible for the whole situation with my ex, not that it was any of their business. Plus ostracized by all the school mums (small town where everyone knows your business, or a deliberately embroidered version of it). 33 sucked and I way prefer being late 40s, living abroad and having older kids. I don't need anybody in the village where I live, and I'm enjoying the freedom to tell judgmental busybodies to go to hell if the situation ever arises 🤣

I had my second miscarriage at 33, can't say it was a very good age, no.

@SparklyLeprechaun That puts my problems into perspective. I'm sorry for your loss.

Unless you are a Christian, I don't see the significance of 33. (It was the age Jesus was when he was crucified.)

30-33 dealing with infertility and miserable. 33 pregnant and had DD and that was one of the best years of my life.

So kinda not the best year for him either? 🤣

Good and bad to every age IMO!

😂

Objectively it's just not true. There is clear evidence of millions of people throughout history (if not more) being miserable at the age of 33. Even if we have souls, where would they be 'returning' to?

I was pretty great at 24, 28, 31, 33 and now 36. Not to mention all the years in between!

I am 33 and would say this has been my happiest year. That is circumstantial however because I was able to quit my horrible awful job and also welcomed DS2 after 5 years of trying and 3 MCs - the last 5 years or so have been very dark for me.

Me and DP are also getting married this year (after 15 years together) followed by a lovely 10 day holiday in Majorca which will be the cherry on the cake of 33 😅 I hope it isn’t downhill from here!

The whole of my 30s has been pretty great, apart from a rocky patch from age 33-34ish when we were TTC.

I saw the thread post and thought this was going to be something like "My friend is having a massive party/girls' week away in the Bahamas for her 33rd birthday and I can't afford to go, now she's blocked me..." or some such.

I can't deny that I'm disappointed.

At 33 I was three and a half years into ttc so no I wasn’t happy. Gave up aged 40 having been told I had premature ovarian failure. I’m now 30 years older, five years into retirement and don’t think I have ever been happier.

Very similar for me although I was 34 by the time DD was born.