It's 3am and I can't sleep so I'm aware I'm probably overthinking this but somebody please tell me if I should be feeling guilty about this .. or not.
This time last year my ex booked an amazing looking holiday to Italy for himself, our 3 children and his girlfriend fur the May half term. I work term time so to save myself skulking about the house for a week I too booked a nice beach holiday with a friend.
For various reasons my ex has since had to cancel his holiday and he has booked a shorter UK caravan break instead with a promise to take the children abroad later in the year (to a family villa with his dad's side of the family). My 2 youngest children happily accepted this at the time but my eldest (nearly 16) was pretty gutted, especially as she is not keen on that side of the family and really doesn't want to go away with them. I have been able to get my eldest booked onto my holiday with the understanding she won't go away later in the year with her dad but couldn't I afford to add all 3, plus I didn't think it was fair on the person I was going away with to change the whole dynamic of the holiday.
So the holiday is coming up in a few weeks and the penny has dropped for my middle child that mummy will be on a beach in turkey while he is in a caravan in Mersea. I feel awful. I'll want to facetime my children while I'm away but keep thinking I shouldn't let them see where I am as it won't be fair and the guilt is starting to eat me up.
Am I right to feel like this? Part of me thinks it's just the way things have gone and not to worry but I know the guilt will get to me while I'm away. Should I have insisted my children come too? (I don't know where I would have found the extra money) or should I have cancelled?