Too soon to accept offer of date ?

[jumpinhead]

I joined a dating app earlier and I literally liked one man. Didn't even read his profile , just liked his face !
The next thing I got a message from him and we got chatting .
We chatted for an hour on text and on voice note on the app.
He has also just joined

He seemed pleasant and chatty with plenty of shared interests etc and then asked if I'd like to meet for a coffee... tomorrow after work ....As he is working close enough to my own place of work .

Is this too much too soon ?

No, I think it's great. Texting for ages, you build up an image of someone then when you meet it's awkward if they don't live up to the picture you've built up in your head

its coffee in a neutral place

Nah get it done before one of you says something the other mis interprets and you louse it up.

Its only coffee, take it slow but get to meeting him in person asap or you could waste god knows how long.

It's not too early. Just meet him face to face so then you know if you want to continue or move on.
I did online dating for several years in the past and I learnt there's no point chatting with someone for ages as it doesn't guarantee you will like that person IRL. Good luck!

What?! No it’s ideal. A casual short date where either of you can make an excuse to leave if needed. What’s the alternative? Talk for weeks and finally meet and realise he is terrible? Or that he is amazing and you have wasted weeks.
Have the date, make a decision

It’s perfect and definitely not too soon

I'm with you, feels too much too soon.

The sooner the better. Meeting in real life let's you see more of what each other is really like.

Let's face it, before dating apps people usually had met someone in person before going on a date. Coffee in a public place is very low key.

Much better than the endless chat with someone you’ve never met and have no idea if you’d like or be attracted to in the flesh.

Go meet him!
Endless chat and build up is pointless unless there’s a spark.

Not too soon. Coffee somewhere public is safe and light- but you can get to know the real person and see if you click.

id steer clear of any one who doesn’t want to meet with a day or two of matching and messaging. Many seem to just like pen pals for their ego.

have fun- hope it goes well

No it’s ideal. Endless text chat for days or more with someone you’ve never met is a pain.

Thanks!
I just have never had someone ask like that, so soon. Anyway it may not suit me so he's relaxed and happy enough to meet at the weekend instead.

I have another issue however and please don't shoot me down on this because even though my self esteem is healthy and am confident , this man is extremely attractive but also very toned and very fit. I am average looking andn8 years older than him ( at50) , probably a bit above average with the right make up and hair but a lm flabby and curved and tall size 14.
He's asked me if I'm into fitness and I told him that I loved to walk, swim, kayak etc but that gym etc had the same effect as housework on me... ie I'd rather eat my elbow that doing that...

Logically I keep telling myself, he's seen my photos and they're honest since knows what I look like but flattering clothes and angle of photo helped.
I'm nervous I guess as this on line dating is new to me .
Is this a case of fake it till you make it with confidence ?

Definitely it is. He liked your pictures and he likes your chat and he clearly likes your humour. It sounds as if you’re very adept at doing yourself down. Don’t do it, he’s eager to meet you, that speaks volumes. Hope it goes well.

If your photos are honest it’ll probably be a nice surprise for him! I matched with one guy when I was new to the OLD thing and I didn’t know what I was looking for who had left a free photoshop tool logo on the bottom of one of his pictures.

Go and have fun. If he’s a good sort he’ll be interested in you because of the chat you’ve had, if he’s not then you’ve had a lucky escape!!!!

You sound interesting and like you like to get out and have fun- I think that’s a bit more attractive than body obsessive gym bunny.

Please focus on whether you will like him, not whether he will like you. That is what matters after all. Let him worry about whether he will like you. I will bet he's not worrying you will like him - plus his photos may be very flattering and taken 10 years ago! Go for it - the sooner the better.

It’s coffee after work - not marriage! Go and enjoy yourself.

I know that @AgentProvocateur but I am nervous and new to this game

New to this game, and already got a date lined up straight away. Smashing it!!!

Don’t be nervous. I met my bloke through OLD, we’re off to celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary on Friday. I met some right horrors before him though!

No, it isn’t too early. It’s much better to do it right away (somewhere public) because you don’t want to waste weeks chatting to someone just to then meet them and realise there isn’t any attraction, they’ve used a really old photo or they’re just not great in person. I always met up quickly and then moved on if it wasn’t something good. Now I’m with someone great!

I am sitting next to my lovely boyfriend who is 10 years younger and significantly slimmer and fitter than me! He doesn’t appear to care don’t worry. If it bothers this guy then he isn’t the one for you and you aren’t the one for him and that’s ok. It’s not a reflection of your worth

What are you waiting for ??
Meet in a public place
Let people know where you are
And if he is a raging weirdo leave
Simple
Chatting for days/weeks , why ?

Be prepared that he chose his most flattering pic maybe even with filter etc also people often shave a few years off , this I would accept

However....If he is really nothing like his picture , by that I mean the picture us a catfish
Leave immediately as this is disturbing