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Pressure to buy from fragrance sellers

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SVDWoodson · 22/04/2024 21:43

Just a little info before we get into this: I have never been able to tolerate perfumes, from a young age, the moment I smell one, within minutes it triggers migraine and I've made my peace with it, so for day to day scent I use body mists instead.

Today, while shopping at Westfield, I encountered a stand in the center selling Ouds, known for their potent scent. As I walked by, the lady at the stand handed me a card. I declined, not wanting the fragrance to linger on me, and explained that fragrances give me terrible headaches, so I don't wear them. Despite my explanation, she continued talking to me, even changing the topic briefly. She was nice, so I engaged in conversation, but she eventually circled back to the fragrance and asked if I was interested in buying a bottle. She mentioned it was 'parfum,' oil-based, suggesting it might not trigger headaches like alcohol-based perfumes. I reiterated that I wouldn't be purchasing a fragrance, but she persisted, even mentioning a special offer of £85.00 for the bottle.

When another customer approached her, I took the opportunity to make a swift exit. I bolted... Honestly, I ran! I don't recall saying goodbye, but oddly enough, I feel guilty about it. In truth, I felt overwhelmed by the pressure, especially after clearly stating my position. While I understand she's likely working on commission and her manager was present, why can't a simple 'no' ever suffice?

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ontheflighttosingapore · 23/04/2024 08:27

I just say no thank you and keep walking. You do t owe them anything. They don't want a chat they want to sell to you

StoatofDisarray · 23/04/2024 11:33

YABU. Just say no thanks and walk on. You invited conversation by explaining yourself.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 23/04/2024 11:37

I was at Westfield yesterday and a woman from that brand approached me, I just said no thank you with a smile and kept walking. Why did you stop and engage in conversation?

exomoon · 23/04/2024 11:39

You made the mistake of stopping. The Westfield stall holders are hard sellers, just walk past, don't engage.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 23/04/2024 11:40

If you don't want her to waste her time, or think that actually you might be interested in a purchase you're doing her a favour by just saying no thanks and carrying on, if anything it's more impolite to stop engage her in a conversation, and preventing her engaging with others who might actually buy something, even you have no intention of doing so. You need to reframe the scenario in your mind, if you are motivated by guilt, surely you should feel more guilty about taking up her time when she is in a commission based job, rather than giving her a straightforward honest response.

tuvamoodyson · 23/04/2024 11:40

Yes…a simple ‘no thank you’ as I walk on by. No need to tell her how perfume gives you headaches, just keep on walking…

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