Sorry I'll try to keep this brief but just interested in others views.
Cooking dinner today, for a couple of reasons it was a complete fail. Probably worth mentioning that I struggle a bit with my executive function and it was to do with timings and forgetting to get something out of the freezer and one ingredient didn't come out as well defrosted in the microwave.
My daughter was being very sweet and saying to me "doesn't matter mummy I know you tried your best" and my partner raised his eyebrows and laughed and said something along the lines of "she definitely didn't as the meal was not her best". I was pretty indignant and argued that I never set out to cook a shitty meal, I always go into it trying my best and that the amount of effort you put in doesn't always directly correlate with the end result. Is that fair to say? Or do I have it wrong? I would hate for him to say to our kids if they get a low mark at school that it's because they didn't put the effort in when they may well have done but fell short. I do understand however that hard work has more of a chance of yielding good results, but it's not always the case. He thinks that because the meal was crap it's because I didn't put the effort in. When in fact I was trying out a new recipe and made a couple of mistakes that I wouldn't do again in hindsight but my full attention was on what I was doing, I wasn't scrolling on my phone at the same time or trying to hang washing out and cook at the same time, if that had been the case I would happily agree I could have put more effort in. Likewise I could have been doing that and been distracted, but somehow everything go great and by fluke the meal could have been amazing and by my partners logic that would mean I had tried my best. I am illogically irritated by this and need a second opinion!