To think this is ridiculous

[Stressed1011]

Long time on here but name changed as could be outing.

my friends ex took her to court to see his child. He was seeing him regularly but my friend would sometimes not let him have him ect so basically he’s taken her to court to get it set in an order the time he has with him. Fair enough. But my friends just rang me after her third hearing and the judge has ordered him to have the child every weekend and half the holidays. She wanted that, he didn’t! He was asking for 2 days in the week and every other weekend, a week in summer hols and a week at Easter.

she’s over the moon as he’s now got to have him every weekend and got no week days, but he’s messaged her to say he simply can’t have him every weekend as he’s working some of them. I think actually it’s a bit unfair on the boys dad if I’m honest and I’m shocked a judge would order that?! Just wondered what others thoughts were.

Just because the court ordered it doesn't mean he has too; they can't force him.

Poor kid, sounds he's being used as a weapon between the two parents.

Hopefully they'll come to a sensible, mutually agreeable solution and not fight over the boy

It sounds fairer on the child imo. They barely know what day of the week it as but can tell the difference between weekdays and weekends and holidays. Two days in the week means some school days are at mums, some at dads, which is more confusing.

It’s not quite the perfect set-up for mum. Despite free weekends and half holidays she’ll be doing 99% of the parenting, dealing with school, appointments, weekday tiredness. He’ll have no free time at weekends but will have a much easier working week and free evenings. He’ll also get to be fun dad as he’s not the one with any responsibilities.

Well I said that, and she said as it’s a court order he has to follow it. I think by the sounds of things, he wanted to have him a bit on school days to be involved which I thought he would get to be honest.

Sometimes my friend is unreasonable I think, and I do tell her. I feel a bit bad for her ex because from what I can gather he just wants regular time with his son but not all weekends. It’s like he took her to court and it’s backfired on him. Just shocked a family court is like that.