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AIBU?

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Original poster

To snub this creep entirely?

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rollonretirementfgs · 22/04/2024 16:36

Moved to a new neighbourhood last year, only 4 houses in our road so everyone is on friendly terms. All the neighbours are lovely and have welcomed us with open arms to their little community.
Except.... our neighbours, let's call them Pete and Sue. Everytime I have a conversation with Pete he is either looking me up and down or staring at my chest. A few times he has knocked on the door and I've been in pj's and he has blatantly been staring at my boobs. It's so creepy. If I wear shorts he is staring at my legs. Makes me feel sick! I've decided I will not speak to him anymore if he can't keep his eyes to himself and think I have good reason. DH thinks I'm overreacting and should be friendly as they all are to us. AIBU?

OP posts:
Greywitch2 · 22/04/2024 16:37

Don't answer the door in your nightwear?

ToTheCrystalDome · 22/04/2024 16:37

But it's not DH being perved over is it?

Original poster
rollonretirementfgs · 22/04/2024 16:37

Greywitch2 · 22/04/2024 16:37

Don't answer the door in your nightwear?

It's my house, why shouldn't I?? Also I can't see who is at the door before I open it

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MarkMenziesFakeMugger · 22/04/2024 16:38

Sometimes you have to open the door if you urgently need a parcel…

Why should OP have to police what she wears fgs?

BMW6 · 22/04/2024 16:38

Stare at his crotch (if you can bear to)

Original poster
rollonretirementfgs · 22/04/2024 16:39

MarkMenziesFakeMugger · 22/04/2024 16:38

Sometimes you have to open the door if you urgently need a parcel…

Why should OP have to police what she wears fgs?

Exactly! Should I not wear shorts or a dress either incase this poor man can't control himself??

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LocalHobo · 22/04/2024 16:43

Personally I draw attention to perve's.
"Oh Pete, have I got baby/dog sick on my shirt? Is that what you're staring at?"
I had a similar neighbour and a few loud "Is my bum covered in dog hair? That's what you get for having a spaniel I'm afraid." drew his wife's attention to where his gaze was directed. He stays away from me now.

FakeMiddleton · 22/04/2024 16:46

lol @LocalHobo

Fight fire with fire!

DH needs to cop on. It's not happening to him, is it?

OhHelloMiss · 22/04/2024 16:49

Make it obvious you know what he's doing.... stop mid sentence and raise your eyebrows. Say 'hello, I'm up here'

Check where he's staring and say 'have I spilled something on me, what are you looking it?'

Works with the male prisoners I work with and they are often sex offenders. Call them out, make THEM uncomfortable.... it stops.

OhHelloMiss · 22/04/2024 16:49

And your DH should step up!

beatrix1234 · 22/04/2024 16:50

LocalHobo · 22/04/2024 16:43

Personally I draw attention to perve's.
"Oh Pete, have I got baby/dog sick on my shirt? Is that what you're staring at?"
I had a similar neighbour and a few loud "Is my bum covered in dog hair? That's what you get for having a spaniel I'm afraid." drew his wife's attention to where his gaze was directed. He stays away from me now.

I want to be your friend (I promise I’m not a perv) 🤣🤣😂

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