To only buy DS one birthday present?

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DTwins are turning 4 in a couple of weeks, they are very excited and have asked for a few presents.The main present DS has been talking about, constantly costs £70 but is currently on sale for £50 so is still expensive. I've been struggling for money so if I buy it for him, I don't think I'll be able to afford to get anything else.

DD has asked for a few bits that cost a lot less and therefore I will probably afford them all.

Their dad isn't involved and we aren't close to my side of the family so they'll probably only get a card.

WIBU? DS won't have anything to open as I'll more than likely set it up for him so I'm just a bit worried as DD will have a pile of around 5 presents wrapped up and DS won't have anything.

Does what he wants lend itself to breaking up in to small packages? So if it was a garage for example that you need to assemble could you wrap the garage and then wrap the cars and people separately?

Next time he talks about the present he wants, I think you need to make it clear that if he did get that he wouldn't get any of the other gifts he'd like. That's what I would do, anyway. Maybe he likes it so much he doesn't mind about having nothing else, or maybe he'll think it's not worth it.

At four, yes he needs stuff to open. Even if it's a rubber duck and a big tube of smarties, he needs parcels. Four is far too young to understand the concept of monetary value.

He's only 4. I don't think he'd understand the cost thing so I'd say if your daughter is getting 5, buy him at least 3 more very cheap things. As he's only little, I'm sure you can find something he'd really enjoy but costs like less than 5 quid.

Just get him and wrap up a big tub of bubbles and a box of Maltesers to go with his big gift.

Could you manage a couple if super cheap bits, so there's something to open (pound shop bits like colouring books). At 4 I think they'll struggle to rationalise more cheaper things vs one expensive

Its quantity over quality at this age so yes get the garage but some smalker bits eg pack of crayons/whoopie cushion/small cars/football are all cheap and could make up if you can afford it. Where i live we have a waste recycle facebook group and people are always giving away good quality toys on there. Do you have something like this in your area that you could keep an eye on for anything suitable. They dont care its second hand at their age x

I would go to home bargains or the pound shop and buy some very cheap cars, giant bubble wands or similar so he has something to actually open.

Agree, they both need similar number of presents to open. But for your son small things, like crayons or a couple of colouring books and comic wouldn't cost much and be loved just as much.

Wrap up inexpensive things, but things he likes as his other gifts. As for the big thing build it, then wrap around it with extra wide wrapping paper or drap a birthday themed table cloth over it. If the other child isn't getting anything in a similar size buy one of those giant cardboard colour in houses or similar so she has a big thing too, they aren't expensive but will keep the peace.