Secret Snapchat

[witmum]

To ask you to tell me all I need to know about Snapchat and cheating husbands?

I have just found my 'DH' secret Snapchat.including messages about making girls his sugar babies 🤢.

I have print screened. He has been chatting with exclusively women/girls for the whole 5 years of our marriage (probably longer).

Hidden on his work phone.

Annoyingly I can't get into his fake email address. I only found it as he fell asleep with stories running.

He is a CFO with poor hygiene and I have been putting up with poor behaviour for too long.

My best friend & I always say adult men with snap chat are cheater as we have both had very bad experiences of this.
My ex 12 year relationship also claimed he didnt have snap chat , he was asleep one evening and a notification popped up on his phone. I had no way of getting into his phone so my best friend set up a fake snap chat account with fake pics from the internet and she added him.
I was sat at her house having coffee while he would message her fake account saying he was single and she was absolutely stunning , then the explicit pictures came. We set up a meet up.We screen shot some of it and it notified him, he blocked her , it was ok though as I had enough proof to leave him.
Snap chat is for cheats or teenagers

I am not sure on the age thing.

I don't feel the need to cat fish/ honey trap him. I have enough reasons to leave. Though seeing the photos that he has sent would repulse me and make me lol at the same time. He is old enough to legally be father to an 18 year old.

He is the one that has exploded our life together.

I am a strong woman and this will not break me. I am so pleased I did not quit work (his request) and that I have family support financially if I need it.

Legal appointment booked for Friday. We will also need some therapy together/ apart as I want to coparent well.

Silver lining I don't have to see the in laws this weekend for a 7 year olds tea party.

Hi op , hope you are doing ok . A few posters on another thread recommended the website - surviving infidelity .

Thank you.

It has been a really strange day of waves of feelings and emotions. A real rollercoaster.

I imagine if there is talk about sugar babies etc, they are probably from somewhere like Adult work or the like

No worries at all. I tried to word it in a way that didn’t shame you - it’s so easy to slip into latent sexism, and we all do it because it’s so ingrained.

We are all a product of this shitty culture that teaches men like your ‘D’H that it’s acceptable to behave how he does.

No shade to you.

And I really hope you LTB.