AIBU for not trusting my partners family?

[AmKins]

I have a 9 month old beautiful boy and I have returned to work full-time.

My partner wants our son to be looked after by his family (his mother and his sister) but I don't trust them. We've had many, many fallings out and dramas over the last couple of years and they feel I have 'stolen their 'boy', so aren't really a big fan of me. The whole family are very into 'what they don't know, won't hurt them' and I just can't get on board with this and this has caused arguments with my partner.

I don't want them to form the basis of our childcare and would rather he went to nursery.

Am I being unreasonable for not letting them look after our son?

You have a DP problem. He expects you to hand over your beloved DC to people who you have had numerous fallings out with? People you don't trust? Absolutely no way would they be providing childcare. This is a hill to die on. I would not be backing down on this OP.

Not unreasonable at all, do not hand your child over to people you do not trust. You will never have a moment's peace the entire time your child is with your in laws. Your partner does not get to overrule you on this one.

Nursery can be a wonderful enriching experience. If you can afford it, go for it.

I think your husband is totally unreasonable expecting you to hand over the baby to people you do not trust.

We've had many, many fallings out and dramas over the last couple of years and they feel I have 'stolen their 'boy', so aren't really a big fan of me. The whole family are very into 'what they don't know, won't hurt them' and I just can't get on board with this and this has caused arguments with my partner.

What's DP's take been while all this was going on? Does he expect you tp put up and shut up? If he's putting his family before you and DS you've got a real problem.

What do you not trust them on? Do you think he would even be safe with them?

What do you think they are going to do to your baby ? Do you think they are going to harm him in some way? Is he in danger with them? Has he spent any time in his own with them? Did this end with issues ?