Husband deleted precious breastfeeding photos

[TheLilacOP]

Hi all, my baby is 5 months old and I’ve been trying my best to breastfeed alongside bottle. That’s just how it worked out. A couple of months ago I ask my dh to take some photos of me breastfeeding so I would have them for our memory album. There were about 5 or 6 really nice photos and u was really happy. Today I asked him for his phone so I could get these and others printed online and discovered he had deleted them. His phone didn’t have much storage left. 😑I was absolutely devastated and have been upset all day. I can’t understand why he would delete precious photos like this. My baby no longer wants to breastfeed which makes it even more emotional as I can’t take new ones. AIBU or is this extremely insensitive?
he said he didn’t know he deleted them all but if it was so important I should have printed them there and then. And then apologized.

Mistakes happen. I understand being upset but he didn’t do it to upset you, and you can have those special memories (just like of all the other things that a camera can’t capture!) xx

This too shall pass.

Mistakes happen. You are overreacting sorry but watch and learn. Next time you like pictures taken on your husband's device save them yourself.

Any luck in recently deleted?

Are they still recoverable from the “Deleted” folder on the phone? (They might still be there).
…or the Deleted folder backed up in the cloud?

No I checked they were deleted more than 30 days ago so gone 😣

Backed up on the cloud? Or if he has Google Photos or Dropbox they’ll be stored there automatically.

thanks sadly they are gone deleted more than 30 days 😥

Have you tried to recreate a few? My DD is always easiest to breastfeed when she's sleepy. Maybe try that, and you can get the baby to latch long enough to grab some photos. A few years from now you'll still have the memory even if it was a bit contrived

Aw I too would be raging. I lost all my labour ward photos of my child 12 years ago due to an old iPhone back up and I have no one to blame but myself. To console myself i think, I remember the day and I constantly remind my child maybe too much how precious that day was. Like, in 100 years what matters is that you and the child concerned knows how precious it was, imagination can join the dots. Where wil the photo be in 100 or 200 years anyway.

Normal to be a bit upset, but don’t cling onto it, mistakes happen

It's a shame but you have to let it go. He didn't do it on purpose and by the time your child is an adult you will have a gazillion photos that are all precious.

That's a bit weird

It wasn't a mistake. He made the choice that they weren't important to him, without considering OP

ah im so sorry you lost those labor ward photos. I’m sure that was devastating but that’s a really good idea and approach to keep the memories alive. Thank you 🙏

Thanks- yes that’s what is so upsetting too- thinking that he seen the photos , reviewed them and then decided that they weren’t important enough to keep -delete them. I can’t understand that thought process and it’s so upsetting. I’d rather delete apps or buy a new phone than delete precious photos of him and our baby! Or at the very least check before I delete them.

I understand OP, I do have a couple of my DCs feeding. They are precious.
My husband lost all pictures of DC1 birth 😞 I never even saw them (nor him) not sure what happened and I still feel gutted. That was more than 10years ago. He definitely took a few snaps midway through labour (I asked him too) and some shortly after delivery, but when I asked him to send them , he couldn’t find them. I searched all possible storage files too (many times over in the coming months). Nothing.
I didn’t take any pictures myself as I thought it was all in hand. The only ones we have are those taken by visiting relatives over the first few days (3 pictures, none with me and DC together).
It is gutting but I just had to put it into perspective and move on. Needless to say, I took lots myself for DC2s arrival.

I know how you feel, not the same situation as yours but my husband bought me a new phone for my birthday and said he would transfer my photos over, he permanently deleted hundreds of photos of my dog, my dog who had just been given 12 months to live and was my world, he thought they all looked ‘a bit the same’ so just kept a few, I have never felt rage like it, I was devastated, all those memories, gone, I had no idea he would do something like that or I would never have handed my phone over I really don’t know what came over him, he was deeply apologetic but it took me ages to get over it. Fortunately we did have lots on the home computer and on his phone and he had a beautiful hardback album made up of her through out her life when she died so he did redeem himself, he knows now never to delete anything from my phone without my permission ever again. I’m sorry you have lost your precious photos it’s a horrible feeling

I can only speak for myself and my children who were all breastfed. But none of them would want to see a pic of them being best fed
I'd be sad about the memories being deleted. But your baby is still little and you will hopefully have plenty of other pictures

@TheLilacOP

Gosh, I'm so sorry. That's awful. I know it sounds a bit daft, but could you kind of recreate the breastfeeding photos? Just put your baby by your (partially naked) booby, for a few seconds whilst your DP takes pics. Your baby is only 5 months old. So won't look massively bigger or much different than the first few months.

People who have really rubbish wedding photos emulate the day the best they can by putting the outfits on and just pretending it's the same day a few months before. Could you just recreate? You only need to do about 7 or 8 or so.

Just a thought!

YABU. It's not like he's deleted every photo of your baby. In future get him to take photos on your phone if you want them keeping or get him to send them to you straight away if you want them, as they photos on his phone are for him to decide what to do with. It'll seem unimportant soon enough.