Fiance telling me news quite delayed

[Londonlife1234]

I want to start off by saying my fiance is amazing and I'm very very happy with him.

A number of times now I've noticed that I'm hearing news or updates later than I imagine most couples would hear from their other half.

Context below:

1. My fiancé's brother had cheated on his wife and moved back in with their mum. My fiance sat on this information and didn't tell me until over a week later. I received the news, chevked how he and his brother were and didn't complain about him sharing with me a lot later than most would.

1. We have friends who are a couple. The guy had told my partner that they had broken up. My partner sat on this info without telling me and I only found out when she text me and I mentioned straight away to my partner. He wanted to give them a chance to rekindle or something and didn't want to share the news but were both friends with them both and it feels he prioritised his mate in this situation. I didn't make a fuss or say anything here, understood his reasonings and went on with the day.

I've not said anything to him about any of the above instances and some others over the years as I respect how he handles things. However when I see how other couples are, I feel they tell their partners news straight away and it makes me feel a bit deprioritised.

Am I being silly by even thinking this or is there something here and worth having a light conversation about ir? Thanks in advance!!

He's keeping confidence and not feeding any drama, which I think is a good thing.

He's keeping confidential information confidential until it needs to be shared. I think that's admirable really.

He's not a gossip.
You are and that's fine, I also like my DH to bring me some gossip.
But he likes to mind his own by the sound of it.
You aren't entitled to the information so you'll just have to get over it

I think maybe he just cares less about other peoples’ goings on so doesn’t immediately think to tell you. Sounds quite refreshing.

You feel he prioritised his mate over you in his mates break up?

He sounds trustworthy and loyal tbh. He thinks about the people actually affected by the situation rather than who he can gossip to.

He’s not a gossip monger and his reasoning for not telling you immediately about other people’s break ups is perfectly sound. In the second example, if either half of the couple had wanted you to know immediately they’d have told you themselves. It’s also perfectly fine to prioritise the needs of a close friend sometimes when they need support or confidence, even when you’re in a relationship.

It sounds like he is not a gossip, perhaps he feels you are and it may get passed on and reflect badly on him. Not saying this is the case but you do seem.bothered that you are not the first to know things.

I get irritated if dh doesn't tell me things that actually affect me, sometimes he forgets that he has agreed to a sleepover for DC for example, but this is other people's business so I think yabu.

No judgement I love a bit of (non spiteful) gossip/drama but your OH doesn't and thats OK. Gossip with the girls, get your outlet another way

This.

You feel he prioritised his mate over you in his mates break up?

I read that she felt he prioritised his male friend over the female friend, as they were both friends.