Husband has a secret job

[Rainbowsky11]

I found out today by sheer accident that husband has been working for a company online for 7 weeks and he didn't tell me. I only found out because I sat down on his computer chair to put my shoes on and turned and seen him gloat on discord to someone about having this job and that the work was nearly complete and he would have the money.
I was completely gobsmacked, immediately asked him about it to which he said he told me about it, which isn't the full truth he did say he'd been offered the contract at the end of February and I said he'd need to contact universal credits and find out more about hours etc to which he said he would. He's never mentioned it again so I just assumed he wasn't taking it.
He hasn't informed universal credits either so now I'm majorly stressing as we have two young kids about what's going to happen.
He lies about silly things all the time and has lied about a major thing in the past and now this.
Am I being unreasonable when I've told him I'm done and want him to leave?

Blimey! That's one hell of a lie. I don't think you can really trust him so I wouldn't want to be with him.

His actions could have landed you with either a huge overpayment and at worst a conviction for benefit fraud - get shot of him OP he doesn’t care about you or your children.

What did you think he was doing in that time?

Lying about a job is pretty big. I don’t understand the UC implications but it would worry me too.

He's in uni and would say he had alot of work to do so it wasn't unusual for him to spend hours sat at his desk.

Is it a second job? Did he think you'd want his earnings?

He's at uni, the job he will get after uni will be a high paid one. He has his own bank account so no I don't think that was his reasoning. It doesn't make any sense as to why he has done it.

If you want him to leave then that's it. He'll have the money to move out won't he? It's really difficult living with a liar. Do you think he would've told you about the money?

I don't understand the benefits part of it but I also don't understand how you haven't noticed in the last two months? Surely he'd have been more tied up and unable to do school runs etc or else doing working all night to complete his course work?

Is he working for a UK company? Is it fulltime, part-time?

I understand the appeal of working for seven weeks to earn some money.

The job was paid per "task" so no set hours, it was also very similar to his uni work which is why I didn't notice. The universal credit part I wanted to make sure it was done correctly when he first mentioned it to me they didn't know he was doing this job and neither did I.

How is he getting paid for it?

Is it going through payroll or via revolut (or similar)?

Is it something that is legitimate so would even be picked up by UC though?

Is it one-off thing? Like he's hired to do a specific task and that's it? A consultancy, for example?

He hasn't been paid yet. So no fraud has been committed.

He needs to go on to his UC journal and declare his work either as employed or self employed.
Tell them the hours of work and his employer if PAYE.
If it is self employment he needs to declare his earnings when they are received . If it's employment then HMRC will send the details to DWP direct and the benefit adjusted accordingly.

There is nothing wrong with working on UC .

He may be called in to complete a self employment interview.. it's routine .

I'll be honest, it sounds like you're overreacting a bit. He told you he'd been offered the contract and didn't mention it again, but that's not a lie? It sounds like he assumed one thing and you assumed another.

It also sounds like he hasn't been paid yet, so he hasn't really done anything wrong with regards to UC either.

It reads to me like he was offered a one-off contract related to his degree so he took it, and that he hasn't contacted UC as he hasn't received any money yet. You admit he did tell you he'd been offered it but just never asked again, nor did he bring it up.

I am sorry for your dilemma and hope it’s sorted… but I really thought that this thread would be about discovering your husband worked MI 5 !