This level of laziness could be a deal-breaker?

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Have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and lived together for 4. He has always been messy but used to take care of himself. He doesn't pick up after himself at all, I've continually asked him to do certain tasks and he will do it for a few weeks then back to leaving everything at his backside. I think I am like a bear with a sore head now as I am fed up picking up after him but I can't live in the mess he creates. I've tried to leave things to build up but he still won't tidy up when it gets to the point of so unbearable for me. I feel like it's now disrespectful now as I've voiced how I feel? I like a clean house I admit but I am not obsessive at all, just basic standards.

On top of this he really doesn't look after himself any more. He stopped going to the gym since COVID, doesn't shower everyday and I don't even know if he brushes his teeth twice a day. I get told to stop nagging if I bring any of this up as he says he is an adult and can look after himself. He doesn't really smell to me but I'm concerned I'm immune to it.

AIBU to consider breaking up over this? Its making me so anxious and stressed.

Loads of people will say he's depressed. Even if he is, it sounds like you're fed up. Leave him.

Lots to think about here. Could he be depressed?

Lovely. I was like the boyfriend recently - well, I took care of personal hygiene but left all the housework and cooking to DH. I was full of anxiety and that was the root cause. It made him miserable, like the OP. We had a conversation and fixed it. People can’t be perfect 100% of the time and deserve to be supported, especially if they used to be different

Thats not the same. His personal hygiene has disappeared since covid she's said, that's been years. He isn't listening to her so she should leave in my opinion.

@Newtothiz I asked him this several times if there is anything going on as I thought maybe he could be but he's adamant he's not. He's also been like this for 3 years since we bought our first house so it's not a short term thing. I don't really think he is I think he's just stuck in bad routines now. He seems generally happy.

We have set jobs in our house. He washes the clothes and take the bins out, I vac and do the dishwasher.

Honestly, if it's bothering you then that's enough of a reason to end things. It's never going to get better, only worse.

The fact that you are finding his habits unbearable would be the impetus to leave for me.
Your relationship should not make you feel anxious and stressed - he’s supposed to be the part of your life that helps relieve your stress. He’s clearly not putting much effort in here .