To feel like everyone has their lives together but me...

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I have 2 kids age 7 and 2. I don't have a career, the career I did have before kids was pretty dead end.. no one that I know who stuck in it has earned over £28k. I'm not working currently. I can't say I'm a brilliant parent, im useless at playing or thinking of things to do.

Im stuck in an unhappy relationship for 12 years, haven't got a particularly nice house, no hobbies I'm not good at baking, I'm not fit..
all my partners wives or partners are teachers, or high flyers along with having kids and their kids are always doing dancing or something and my kids.. aren't interested well the elder isn't.

I just feel like crying and like I'm a big fat blob failure at life.

No advice sorry,

Feel the same way. Live in a nice area and all the mums seem to have amazing jobs. I stay at home, never had much of a career. Seems like everyone’s life is moving forwards and mine always stays the same. I’m an okay parent but I don’t particularly enjoy it. Sometimes I think I would have been happier without kids.
The inertia is slowly eating away at me. I feel like I need to make a change but don’t even know where to start.
I do love my husband though, he is successful and has it together. Wonder why he’s with me sometimes

You have a house, a partner, and two children (I’m assuming two healthy children since you don’t say otherwise).

Many many people out there are pining for those things. Try to appreciate what you have.

I’m sure others will back me up (and offer examples) when I say that very few people have got it all together. You mention other mums being teachers. What you don’t mention are the inspections, stress, league tables, disruptive kids, etc.

So many of the people you envy have got problems. I don’t know them, but I know they’ve got problems. How do I know? Because that’s life. Maybe their partner is hell to live with, or they live next door to an arsehole who makes their life a misery, or their new manager is a bully…and so on.

The wheel turns. Even those whose lives really are perfect only have perfect lives for now. Check in with them in a couple of years.