AIBU to take this personally

[Kayjyyy]

I feel like my manager has always vaguely disliked me or not had time for me. I handed my notice into him on Friday, which he was fine about - perhaps too fine, there wasn't even a sorry to see you go lol. He said would discuss with other senior leaders on Tuesday and agree a final day for me.

I'm remote but with occasional weekly travel to office. He did email me earlier this week and said I don't need to come in to office now if I don't want to. I said ok I won't and queried when he was going to tell the other staff at my level about my leaving because he seemed very keen to tell them asap last week despite me not even knowing my final day. I also asked again about my last day as I was supposed to know early in the week so I could finalise contract with new employer.

He read this message on Tues and hasn't replied.

I have heard zero from any of the senior leaders. I believe they told some staff when they were all in the office together, but no one has even had the courtesy to give me a head's up. I might as well be dead to these people is the sense I'm getting. Getting my new job arranged is stressing me out and I realise I chose to leave, but they're pushing ahead telling people, not updating me about what the hell they're deciding and I can't even sign my contract as I don't know when I can start.

AIBU and taking it too personally?

How did you ‘hand your notice’
email or text?

Surely you work out your own last date?

From whatever your notice period is, worked out from the date you have handed your notice in. Ive always included the date of my last day in the letter when ive handed my notice in

Then the only change is if they decide to pay you in lieu of notice or you have holiday owed which they prefer you to take rather than pay

So if you work it out, perhaps tag on a day or two for a break and then give that date to your new company?

When you handed in your notice did you not put a final day? Usually you write in a date yourself which would be following a notice period, so if that were one month you write that date.

I would email and confirm in writing what your last date will be, then give that date to your future employer, don't wait for them to give you information that you have the ability to decide.

Why are they working out your last day?

Whenever I've handed in my notice I've always told them the date I would be leaving.

Surely you can just say "I will be leaving on x day," and as long as it covers the notice requirement in your contract they can't make you stay any longer.

Just decide with your new job when you're starting and then tell your current job you'll be leaving by that date.

It's a long notice period. There was talk of reducing it when I had the initial conversation last week.

Taking it personally requires far too much emotional energy.

You’ll be gone soon anyway.

Just go into the office, knock on their door and sort it out face to face.

I mean saying you might as well be dead is dramatic. Have you picked up the phone to them?

Blimey, I can understand why you are leaving.
I would go into the office more, not less, just to wind the bastard up.

Can you put a written query in to your HR department and cc in your manager and ask for clarification on your last day? If it's a long notice period they're maybe being very proactive in arranging cover but not so proactive in your paperwork etc. Either that or maybe there's a cover issue and they are debating if they can let you go earlier or not. Either way keep a paper trail and do it in writing.