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AIBU?

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To let them babysit?

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pollypocke · 18/04/2024 18:37

So,
We asked my MIL if she could look after our little one at the weekend. She said yeah of course just drop him round.
Now the plans changed slightly so my MIL has asked us to drop our little one at my SIL's house where she'll be with SIL and her partner.
My question is, AIBU to not feel comfortable leaving my little one with my SIL's partner that I've met once (and my SIL has only known a year) and have only very recently moved in (this month)
I don't know if I'm right to feel a bit uneasy about leaving him with someone I hardly know or if I'm being over protective?

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Josette77 · 18/04/2024 20:04

Sounds like sil is a single mom? How old is her DD? I'm guessing mil helps out because the father isn't in the picture?

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pollypocke · 18/04/2024 20:10

Josette77 · 18/04/2024 20:04

Sounds like sil is a single mom? How old is her DD? I'm guessing mil helps out because the father isn't in the picture?

Her DD's dad sees her but not too often, maybe once a month? Her DD is 9 now but they both live with SIL's partner so he is a step dad sort of figure now I suppose

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pollypocke · 18/04/2024 20:13

anon4net · 18/04/2024 19:57

I wouldn't base your decision on MIL's reaction when she found out you were pregnant. But I would based on other things like change in location etc. I'm always weary of baby-sitting being done when other adults are around/social situations as that is when accidents are more likely to happen b/c everyone thinks the other person is doing the caregiving. I also firmly have learned to trust my gut when it comes to things like this.

Could you ask it to be at your MIL's house? How many hours is it? I may have missed how old the baby is. That would impact my decision too.

My little one has just turned one and is into absolutely everything, honestly you have to have eyes in the back of your head with him at the moment!
We just asked for her to have him for a couple of hours just to give us a bit of time to ourselves as we've had a really rough few months but if it's causing me this much stress I'd rather not bother as it defeats the point of trying to get some time to destress

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CantBelieveNaive · 18/04/2024 20:22

Trust your gut.
Also your sil is taking advantage of her mum and acting like a child. She needs to look after her own child and not prioritise the boyfriend. Poor kid xx

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