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tacticaltexts · 18/04/2024 17:49

Name changed for this as it's sensitive.

My parents live in another country, on a recent visit to them I spent a day doing errand type things accompanied by a local man, I don't speak the language well enough, we went out afterwards with parents and had a few beers. It was late and I went outside to smoke, he followed and grabbed my face and tried to shove his tongue down my throat, I put a stop to it immediately and said not a chance and that I'm happily married, he knows my husband, well.
Since I returned I've had a text asking if I'm ok and if I arrived home. I can't think of how to reply, it needs to be firm and yet polite, I don't want to make waves just put him further into his place. Can anyone advise?

Further note he is ten+ years older than me.

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EveryoneJapan · 18/04/2024 17:53

I can think of a reply that’s firm, but I’m not sure its polite. Suffice to say it begins with F and ends in F.

Merryoldgoat · 18/04/2024 17:55

Why do you need to be polite to a man who assaulted you?

LadyKenya · 18/04/2024 17:55

Just ignore it. Why bother replying, I would not.

Shoxfordian · 18/04/2024 17:57

Block his number

TitaniasAss · 18/04/2024 17:57

Why would you even reply, never mind be polite?

AGlinnerOfHope · 18/04/2024 17:57

No, I’m extremely angry with you. Don’t contact me again.

fieldsofbutterflies · 18/04/2024 18:01

Why on earth wouldn't you block him?

LizLooney · 18/04/2024 18:12

I agree give him both barrels then block. But if you don't want to do that for some reason:

Yes I am home safely. I would prefer not to be contacted again.

tacticaltexts · 18/04/2024 18:14

Initial thought was to block him straight away. It's on fb messenger so I can do that easily.
I'm my own worst enemy with this sort of thing because I immediately went to 'I must have been flirty/done something/said something to give him that impression' and I don't want to cause waves for my parents as it's a very small village in a very misogynistic country, men are very much in charge.

I think the person who said "I'm very angry with you don't contact me again" probably has it spot on because that in itself will piss him off as obviously he's gods gift.

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