to be annoyed at DP for doing nothing but watch the footie and drink??

[DoYouSeeWhatISee]

Ok so he doesnt just do this but it feels like it sometimes.

Take this wkend, we were supposed to be spending it together with DD but he rang me from work on Thursday saying an old friend was going to be at the caravan site (family member owns caravan that we can use whenever), so i say what about our wkend?? and he says aw but babe ive not seen him in years, so thats decided then!!!

Anyway he rings me on the friday night while he's there to say friend wasnt coming after all, but that he was going to stay so he could watch the footie and drink all wkend!!!

Im all up for having our own space but this takes the p*ss! by the way he was there doing the same the wkend before too.

I think if i ruled the world i would ban football alltogether and cut DPs nads off!!!

YANBU

and you put up with this because........??

Why are you with him?
He sounds like an utter prick.

couldn't you have gone down to join him at the caravan?

You must be joking? i would no way stand for this oh & where is your time to yourself? are you spending next weekend there?

i couldnt because i had no way of getting there, i cant drive and he didnt offer to pick me up

I suppose i put up with it because in all other respects hes a good partner, hes great with DD who isnt his natural daughter, i just dont know tbh

Have a rethink.

Those aren't good enough reasons to live with someone.

I would expect better treatment form my postman.

I hate football sometimes. I put up with it because it is very important to DH (for some reason and DS#1 is starting to really enjoy it. Also I don't think it's my job to tell a grown adult what to do. And sometimes it's nice to get him out of the way - with various DCs in tow sometimes. I also know that he would forgo watching the footie for something really important. And he was like that when I met him..... BUT! There are times when I want to tell him to stop acting like an total fckwit and recognise that it's just a game and NOT* the most important thing in the whole world (that's me obviously).

In your case I might put up with one weekend of him doing that (perhaps once or twice a year) but not more than that. And I'd want a weekend off in return.

this isn't a case for separation is it!?

Sometimes the advice on here leaves me flabbergasted!

Yeah i totally agree that he has the right to watch the footie and im a strong believer in still being able to do the dtuff you enjoy even when in a relationship but it just feels like football is top of his list!! i can think of numerous occasions when he has blown me out for it

and the thing is, i cant have time away myself because he isnt DDs biological dad so i cant really expect him to look after her whilst i swan off to do my own thing

Surely if he takes you on he takes her on too? Don't you come as a package?

Of course it's great for people to do their own thing but not if doing so comes at the expense of other stuff.

my dp does little more than sit aroyund drinking beer and watching footy! (okay im being a little unfair he works and is doing a lot of over time) but he does nothing in my house and never has done unless he is after sex then he might do some ironing!!

my dd1 is not his and i dont think its unfair to expect him to look after her while i go out every now and then! in fact he has no choice in the matter the converstation tends to go
me "im going out tommorrow"
him "whos babysitting"
me "your mum till you finish work then you are picking them up"

its the least you deserve if your relationship is anything like mine i.e. you all the housework cookig washing etc he plays with kids and watches tv!