Sorry this is a long one… When I was heavily pregnant me and my partner went to visit his very unwell Dad. I was in a separate room for a few minutes with his grandma and uncle(his aunties husband to be exact) I have only briefly met his uncle once previously to this and it was just a quick hello nice to meet you situation not much of a conversation going on. So he was asking how pregnancy was going and what we’ll do for money etc when the baby is born as I was on maternity leave. He then goes on to be very xenophobic saying how I have a right to claim some sort of benefits because I have worked etc unlike all the people who come over here from other countries. I was mortified, angry shocked and upset as he spoke disgustingly about people who have migrated to this country. Meanwhile he had no idea that I am 4th generation immigrant and that my grandfather came here from Poland after the war married an English woman, worked hard and created a family and a better life for himself. I don’t think he even knew what my last name was as maybe he would’ve known not to speak so disrespectfully as my last name is quite obviously polish. I was livid but with my father in law very unwell in the next room and my partner and his family being very distraught I bit my tongue and quickly changed the subject without “acknowledging” what he has said because I knew what I would’ve wanted to say wouldn’t not of came out politely. He then started talking about how he wonders who the baby will look more like which was fine until he then decides to start talking about babies of colour and how they are ugly and resemble certain animals. the poison that poured out of his mouth I couldn’t quite believe my blood boiled as I filled with rage! I am actually too disgusted to repeat most of what was said on here! I was in absolute disbelief! His 89 year old Nan sat there the whole time looking extremely uncomfortable I could tell she was not happy with what was going on. But Still being mindful that a dying man was in the next room and this was a sensitive time. I stood up and walked outside to get some air his Nan poked her head around the door and said I’m sorry he talks so much rubbish! I said no need to apologise on his behalf. I then didn’t come in contact with him again. Since then his dad has passed and I’ve given birth to our beautiful son two days before his funeral. We have took our son to go visit his auntie and Nan and his uncle was already there I just couldn’t stop thinking about what kind of man he is and wanted to take my son and leave he didn’t get to hold him and I didn’t speak to him either. Fast forward my son is 9 weeks old and we’ve been asked to visit them again I’ve told my partner about his uncle and he had agreed with what I’ve said that it was wrong what was said. But I’ve said I do not want to go there with him there and he said I don’t have to and he will take our son I told him no! Our son will not be around this awful man! Right now he may not understand but he will when he’s older I do not want him around this type of person! My partner now says we can still go but he will speak to his auntie about it on the ride over! I still do not want us going! Our son can see his auntie and grandma but not him! I don’t know what to do! Because I don’t want his auntie and Nan missing out but I do not want him around that horrible man! Please help.