Found out my grandfather had died on fucking facebook

[MoreLidlThanWaitrose]

No we weren’t close but I still feel like someone should have fucking told me?

Him and my dad had a strained relationship historically but had built bridges in the last 20 years or so and saw each other once or twice per year. I had stopped bothering when he didn’t bother to attend my wedding (because his wife was working - in retail, she had 6 months to book A/L, it wasn’t a busy time of the year, and she didn’t even have to come) but still had ocasional contact.

I just feel like my dad could have phoned at some point today so I didn’t have to read it on my aunt’s Facebook page!! Gushing about what an amazing father and grandfather he was FWIW 🙄

Am sorry you have found out that way, issue either lies with the aunt for posting on fb when not all family have been told, thats a big fauz pas, or father for not telling you (if not in touch with aunt)

It’s totally my dad’s fault. But I’m choosing to blame my aunt which I’m aware is childish.

Sorry for your loss. Also sorry you found out from fb.

I found out my mother died when my sister received a letter from the council as they cancelled the blue badge. My sister had it because she always took our mother to appointments etc so was registered as her carer. Our mother went to live another sibling. That sibling didn’t tell anyone about her death. My family was really fucked up due to both parents being abusive so it wasn’t really a loss tbh.

Well, what's done is done. You've found out, no taking it back. Can't be undone. Don't make an emotive situation an angry one too, more important things to be sorted. Time enough for the other stuff later. Take some time to calm, remember the good memories and move forward.

Same. It’s actually happened to me twice with family members.

Sorry for your loss x