For feeling I am cheating

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My husband and I separated 6 months ago ,it was an abusive relationship so after 8 years of that I packed my things and left ,now I have filed for divorce.
A few nights ago I felt very lonely and downloaded a dating app to see how I would feel about it.
The moment I did this I felt like I was cheating, is this cheating ?
I have just talked to a couple of guys but I understood I am not ready for meeting anyone yet so I am deleting my profile.

No it isn’t cheating.
You and your husband have parted but haven’t formalised it with a divorce.

I think in my experience it still felt like cheating 4 years later. So if you feel you’re ready to date then push past the weirdness, but if you feel you need more time to enjoy being free and single and build up your confidence then take a bit more time.

Your separated you can do what you want. Personally, I'd get divorced abefore dating. I'd use the time to heal and work on myself. It's so easy to step out of the frying pan and into the fire.

It is 100% not cheating.

you may however, not be emotionally ready to date yet and that is perfectly ok.

You are not in a relationship, therefore you are not cheating. The fact that it will take a while to disentangle yourself from the marriage legally is a separate issue. Emotionally and sexually you're a free agent.

No it’s definitely not cheating. Not unless you were having conversations with your husband about getting back together. It doesn’t sound like that is the case here though.

Also I don’t think it’s clear whether YABU by thinking it’s cheating or YANBU by going on a dating app - I think that’s why you’re getting a 50/50 vote. You might want to make that a bit clearer for voting purposes

It's not cheating but it's telling.. it's telling you that you are not yet ready to start on that path just yet.

Give yourself time to heal, give yourself time to be single. You'll risk jumping right into the arms of another monster who can smell your vulnerable from a 100 paces. Heal.

@toomuchfaff
I think you are right ,part of me got on the dating app to test myself and I found out how little patience I have talking to men online

I think after my 10 yr relationship, I was single 6 years, tried to date in that time and many reasons I wasn't ready, it takes a while, I read somewhere that it's not unusual for half the amount of time of the life of the relationship, so 10 yrs relationship, 5 yrs to heal. Don't rush, there's more to lose by pushing the square peg in the round hole.