Is there?
I'm meeting a date for the first time this weekend. We've been chatting on WhatsApp for two weeks and have gradually got a feel for eachother .. so no big intrusive questions , nothing sexual or inappropriate , just a gradual online chat getting t know one another
And it's been enjoyable .
I would have met earlier but he definitely wanted to be sure he wanted to meet up, first by getting to know one another lightly .
Are there bad flags here or has this worked for anyone else ?
I accept that there May be nothing between us but am still hopeful!
AIBU?
To think there's an argument for texting for a few weeks before meeting up to get a feel for the person ?
bloodyhellsbell · 17/04/2024 20:11
Thepeopleversuswork · 17/04/2024 20:35
When I was doing OD I met quite a few timewasters who in various ways would give good text but never wanted to meet.
I think it can provide perfect cover for fantasists, people who like the idea of romance but don’t actually have the bottle for it and people who aren’t actually single.
One guy in particular I really thought I clicked with and he endlessly procrastinated about meeting while messaging constantly. There was always a really good reason why he couldn’t. I can’t be 100% certain but I am pretty sure it retrospect he was married or entangled in some way.
There’s nothing wrong with messaging intrinsically but it just delays the process if getting to know someone. I can’t see why you would do that if you weren’t having doubts.
Robinkitty · 17/04/2024 20:40
I mean it could work out.. I’d really enjoyed texting a guy and liked his pictures, once I met him in person I knew in a second I didn’t fancy him in real life. Have you had any video dates? That might be a good start whilst your waiting to meet..
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littlebitstuck2024 · 17/04/2024 20:47
I wouldn't talk to anyone for longer than a few days maximum before suggesting meeting for a quick drink. You don't know if you like them until you meet in person, everyone seems nice in their messages.
I also set my filters to a maximum of 15 miles away. I live a busy life, I don't want to end up travelling for ages just to see someone. I don't have the time for all of that faffing. I want a man that I can meet up with spontaneously for casual drinks after work or whatever, I don't want to have to plan everything. It would feel like a chore or an obligation.
If he lives 3 hours away, you're buggered if you meet and don't like him, it would be a wasted journey and a lot of wasted time. If he lives closer and you don't like him, you've wasted like 30 minutes or an hour if you're being polite.
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