Is this fair? Choosing godparents

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DC2 is 1 so we’re a bit late with all this!

I have 3 siblings (2 sisters, 1 brother) and DP has 1 brother. When DC1 was born, we asked his brother and one of my sisters to be godparents. With DC2 I want to ask my remaining sister and brother.

Is that fair, given they’ll both be from ‘my side’? But this way all of our siblings get to be a godparent.

YANBU - yeah that’s fine
YABU - should ask someone from dads side really as well

Fair to who? Does your DH only have the one sibling?

Fair to DP I suppose, yes he only has 1 brother, who is already godparent to DC1.

I suppose we could ask him again but then one of my siblings would miss out. I don’t want 3+ godparents (not bashing those who do, but I want 2)

It’s traditional to have three godparents, but given the situation I think yes, you should ask your two remaining siblings. What does your partner think?

what does your DP think?

I think it would be fair to have all the siblings as godparents rather than leaving one out.

Depends whether he is bothered surely? If he was then I would either have 3 even if you don’t like that or explain to your brother

DP isn’t bothered. He’s not actually religious (and neither are his family), mine are Catholic.

But, I just wanted to check how it looks from the outside as his mum is a bit funny about their family being centre stage and seems to dislike my family..

If the only person it might be unfair to is your partner and he's not bothered then go for your other two siblings. Seems like a no-brainer to me.

Also seems more sensible to have the religious family members as Godparents too, assuming DP's sibling is likewise not religious?

This answers your question.
Godparents are about guiding your child on a spiritual level, not demonstrating how much their parents like them or otherwise. Otherwise it makes a mockery of baptism in general.
Nothing against non-religious people - but no point giving them a spiritual role they can't fulfil.

Have you only got two planned? I thought three was the norm. Then you could ask e.g, DH's best man so there's another from "his side".

Ask your two sibs.
But if that means you're leaving out someone significant on his side, then just have 3 godparents (unless another baby is on the cards).

If he's not bothered then what's the issue? You don't have to pick your siblings though.

This. I would be choosing the godparents based on their ability to support and guide your child as he grows up in the Christian faith. His aunts and uncles already have a special role in his life, why not choose a friend from church instead.

Godparents are about guiding your child on a spiritual level, not demonstrating how much their parents like them or otherwise. Otherwise it makes a mockery of baptism in general.
Nothing against non-religious people - but no point giving them a spiritual role they can't fulfil.
Exactly this. Your DC already have a family bond with Uncles and Aunts, choose Godparents who offer additional support of the spiritual kind.