To change nursery? Or not

[thethingisthisyousee]

I have been reluctant to do so because I don’t want to mess things up for DS who is 3 and a half.

The nursery is fine, I haven’t been thrilled at some stuff but the staff are lovely and no complaints.

But it’s near my work which is only fifteen minutes away. DS starts school September 25 which is near our house. When he starts I will have to either drive to get him from school then drive back with him to get DD (she starts this summer) or get DD first and she would miss tea and then get DS.

There is a nursery in the next village I could possibly send them both to. It’s a local chain and has a good reputation. So I suppose I’m asking WWYD?

[Catza]

I'm a bit confused about the logistics. So the nursery is near your work which is 15 min away from your house where the school is, right? It seems as though you can pick up from nursery on your way back from work and then swing by the school all in the space of 15+ min.
You are considering a nursery in the next village which is neither near your work nor your home. How would it make things easier?

[thethingisthisyousee]

@Catza I really haven’t explained it well, I know - it’s hard to do so without gabbling nonsense.

But the school is about five minutes drive away from home - in the opposite direction to nursery.

Nursery is fifteen minutes away from home and then another ten minutes to work on top of that.

So let’s say I finish work 330. I can probably get to the school for 4 to pick DS up, then at nursery at 430 to pick DD up, then home for 445. That’s a lot of to-ing and fro-ing for me and I don’t mind that but it’s a lot for DS as well.

Or I could get DD first delaying the time I can pick DS up by about ten / fifteen minutes but means she’d probably miss tea: not hugely important I suppose but one of the things I do like about nursery is not having to stress about feeding them!

Or I could move them both and have the nursery five minutes from home. It seems like a no brainer when I put it like that but I just don’t want to disrupt DS as obviously he’s been there for a while.

[theeyeofdoe]

Start DD in the village nursery and just do two picks ups for a little bit. It sounds as if you have enough time.

[Catza]

Ah, that makes more sense. There is a third option, I suppose - leave DS where he is until he goes to school, let your DD go to the village nursery. You will be doing a bit of extra driving for a year but will make life easier for you in the long run and you won't have o disrupt the routine.
Also, probably wouldn't hurt to just gently broach the subject of change with DS. He may be fine with it and not mind or it may be a resounding no, in which case you will know that he might struggle to settle.

[thethingisthisyousee]

Thank you. I worry that would disrupt DD 😂 argghh so difficult. I suppose we could have a look round.