To do my own birthday?

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It's my birthday on Friday.

My husband isn't hugely into birthdays, whereas I was raised by a mom who made the day really special.

DH will go out with the kids to get cards and gifts but isn't into decorating the house and so on. I've accepted this, and the years I've mentioned that I'd like it he has made the effort with banners and balloons etc, but probably wouldn't bother otherwise.

He isn't well at the minute due to an injury and I know there's no chance of him going to get those bits.... aibu to do it myself?

Should I get over myself at almost 40 and recognise that a lack of bday banners isn't necessarily a lack of appreciation?!

Do I need banners up on my bday?
I sound like a brat, don't I 🥴

I made bunting and we reuse it year on year

Happy birthday!!!!! 🎂

Happy birthday OP 🎁🥳🎈🥂🎂

My dc have always had banners and balloons for their birthdays and now I get them for mine! I’m not actually too bothered about decorations but they think that because I do them for them that it’s what I want and I do love the fact that they make the effort for me. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a fuss on your birthday, get your banners and enjoy!

aibu to do it myself

The biggest advantage of being an adult , and having inevitable death and taxes, for me is that you get to do things exactly the way you want them.

Do whatever you want for yourself.

Just don't build up any expectations that anyone else will want to do this for you and that that says anything about their feelings for you or your value as a human being.

Do what you want to have the day you want!

Everyone in our house gets the birthday bunting which involves someone walking about on the island in the kitchen threading it through the handles of the velux window, it feels even more special because you know someone has risked their life for you to have birthday bunting 😂 that and a homemade cake.
Banners not so much because I won’t want anything stuck on the walls but for milestone birthdays we get extra decorations. And the same applies to adults. It’s nothing dramatically over the top, but just nice gestures.

Generally speaking adults don't have banners and balloons on their birthdays. You do sound a bit childish needy.

Thanks for the wishes everyone. 🩷

@Chocolateorange11 I might get this printed on a t shirt and wear it all day!

Do whatever makes you happy

Do it nothing wrong in celebrating yourself you're worth it! I used to go all out for my ex and when the kids were little we would make a paper happy birthday banner and colour it in,make and decorate a birthday cake and then after my shift at work I would blow up balloons hang the banner up and get the the living room ready with his presents ready for morning. He always had the day off because he wanted to celebrate. While he always helped with the kids birthdays, he did absolutely zilch for mine.

Happy birthday! Hope you've got your banners up and made it really special!

You deserve it 🩷

I can't see an issue with it. If you were stomping your feet or sulking because your DH wouldn't hang a banner very childish and not ok. Hanging a banner for your birthday because it makes you happy why not. Life throws enough shit at most of us, so we shouldn't miss the opportunities to do the little things that make us happy. Happy birthday.