For taking my time?

[Dodosareextinct]

I've been a SAHM for the last 2 years and have two young DCs. DH works away during the week, home at weekends. I've recently decided that I want to go back to work part time as I don't enjoy being a SAHM. I had an interview last week which involved a long return train ride (the job wouldn't be there but I had to visit head office for interview hence the travel) and meant DH had to take a day off to care for DC (no local family). After the interview I decided to go for a solo lunch, a hot coffee and do some shopping, arriving home after DCs were in bed (DH knew this in advance it wasnt like I sprung this on him). Apparently I was unreasonable in doing this and I should have got the first train home after the interview! Personally, I just wanted to enjoy a few hours of not being screamed at by a toddler, drink a hot coffee and not having a baby attached to my hip for the first time in years!

He agreed it before ? Guess he didn't realise how hard it could be - suspect he hasn't done it much ?

How often do yo get time off?

How often does he get time to home self

YANBU they had a parent caring for him and he was aware, I would have done the same. Were the objections raised in advance or after the fact? Is he against you going back to work?

Good for you

He agreed then got stroppy when he realised how hard it can be?

well done you! Definitely do it again for the next interview.

Of course you weren’t unreasonable, and good on you for recognising being a SAHP isn’t for you. Make sure your DH, who appears either clueless or actively double-standarding, recognises his life is just about to involve waaay more work compromises, having to negotiate leaving times around childcare etc.

Hope you get the job. Or if not this one, something even better.

Oh no did poor man who is hardly ever there need to do bedtime?

I wonder who will play him in the movie?

Of course YANBU. He works away during the week, he has plenty of opportunity to eat, relax, go for coffee in peace. It's about time you got that chance!

I hope you get the job, I did not enjoy being a SAHM either and going back to work did wonders for me.

If he knew in advance that you'd be home after bedtime then he doesn't have a leg to stand on. There was a plan and you stuck to it.

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I would have done the same

I'd have grabbed that DC-free time with both hands too OP.

He sounds like a knob end.

Hope you enjoyed it @Dodosareextinct. Sounds like you need to do it more often & daddy dearest needs a bit more parenting time.

Does he take time for himself after work similarly? In the very unlikely event that you insist he return straight home every day, yabu, but otherwise, yanbu.

Did he say why he only objected afterwards if he knew in advance?