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To be so tired all the time?

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Nomorewine123 · 16/04/2024 16:14

I am wondering if this is just life or is it my age, do I do too much, should I try and chill a bit more ?
So I’m in my late 40’s. Work full time in a very busy job. 2 teenagers who a few evenings a week need dropping /picking up from their activities. A dog who needs walking. An elderly mother and parents in law who I try and visit each at least weekly but feel guilty if that’s all I manage. I set my alarm at 5 am 3 times a week to go to the gym. If I didn’t do this I wouldn’t make it in the evening and exercise has always been important to me. I try and do an extra session at the weekend. Generally I naturally wake up by 6.30am anyway on days I’m not at gym. I seem to feel so tired all the time. I could happily go to bed before 9pm every day. It’s a struggle to stay awake past 10pm and I feel bad because I’m always in bed before the kids and often asleep before they come up. My smart watch tells me I average 7 and half hours sleep a night so I shouldn’t be so tired should I ? I’ve had bloods - all fine. Is this just life when you get to my age? Am I too old for leaping round the gym at 6am ? Does something need to give to stop this constant exhaustion or does everyone feel like this? It sometimes just hits me middle of my working day I could just curl up and sleep at my desk !

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Littlepixie75 · 16/04/2024 16:25

Wow! It sounds like those three days you get up really early and fit in such a lot which is amazing, but not if you’re utterly shattered by 3pm. Do you feel better on the days you don’t get up at 5am? I am similar age to you. I get up around 6.30am and do a fair bit of exercise (not gym though) then a full day’s work and am normally ready to collapse by 9/9.30am. No way I could do a regular 5am start 3 days a week. Could you push the wake up time back on those three days and still fit in the gym or not? It’s really hard fitting it all in, isn’t it?!

Littlepixie75 · 16/04/2024 16:27

Duh! I mean I’m ready to collapse by 9/9.30pm!!! Sorry….

CaribouCarafe · 16/04/2024 16:46

I don't think that's abnormal, you have a busy life and I think your body is hoping for 8 hours sleep per night! I think rather than feeling guilty about falling asleep at 9pm, just give in and enjoy it!

kelsaycobbles · 16/04/2024 16:54

Just go to sleep earlier

And try and get family to help with things more - although walking the dog might be nice exercise

Nomorewine123 · 16/04/2024 17:01

It’s fair to say the 5am start days are a killer for me by evening time. It’s just not doable later on though to fit in getting to work and jollying the kids ready for school ! Maybe In a year or 2 when there’s less stuff to do with them in evenings or they can independently get around I can move to evening exercise. If I didn’t do the gym I could stay in bed until 7am which is an extra 2 hours - I suppose it’s the gym that’s the killer really! Oh to be 20 again and have that energy - but I suppose in my 20’s didn’t have the responsibilities we have now so I guess I wasn’t more energetic - just did less !

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EBearhug · 16/04/2024 17:28

Late 40s - exhaustion can be a symptom of perimenopause. Have you had any other symptoms?

It's probably the 5am starts (they would kill me,) but it may be worth getting things like your iron levels and thyroid checked. I've been prone to anaemia with heavier peri periods, to the point I was prescribed iron tablets, which have definitely made a difference (though so too did the end of a 43 day period.) I also had low B12 at one point, which i also gor a prescription for. (I'm probably just low on blood full stop after all the tests...)

Maybe take a week off from the 5am gym and see how you feel after that? Just a week of more sleep might help.

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