To keep limited contact with sister?

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My sister is 8 years old than me and we're not particularly close.
In my teens she was quite verbally abusive to me but when she became a mother herself she apologised for her abuse.

We only really see each other at my parents and she visited me a few times but other than that there is no real close relationship.

Her child is an only child and she wants to visit me all the time so get child can be close with my baby.

But the thing is she hasn't never invited me to her home for years.
She has always kept her child away from the family and her child ( a 15 year old) is quite nasty to people a trait that he inherited from her.
For example she will make jokes about people's weight/ appearance and her son now will do the same.

I'm not really interested in our kids having a relationship as my nephew is pretty much a stranger anyway and I don't want my child developing the same nasty traits when he is older.

AIBU?

not unreasonable at all

Nope, not unreasonable. Stick with your decision

I cannot imagine any 15 year old boy wanting to regularly visit an aunt he has no close relationship with, let alone fostering a relationship with a baby. Her son will have his own friends and his own peer group. By the time your dc is preschool age, he'll be an adult. My dc have no other children in the family as we are the only ones who had dc, and they aren't missing out.

No, YANBU. Maintain your distance, she sounds toxic. 💐

100% agree with you.
She says she wants them to be like siblings.