Schrödinger's Bloody birthday

[HPD76]

I’m just about at the end of my patience with people who say please, no fuss for my birthday. I don’t even want the date acknowledging. No celebrations, birthdays are meaningless to me. And then when you present them with the small no fuss birthday they requested, get all uppity about you not making sufficient fuss.

AIBU to suggest that all of these people get in this bin? Don’t specifically ask me for something, or in this case very little to nothing, and then be shocked when a card is sent, a well chosen gift is given and a modest celebration are offered. Do you want fuss or not?

When I say no fuss - I really mean no fuss.

No one would throw a "surprise" party for me as they know I'd just run away.

I do get your point though.

Honestly never met someone like that or maybe I have and haven't picked up on the disappointment when they don't get what they really wanted...

I have met people who make and expect a tremendous fuss about their birthday but can't even be bothered to send a text on the right day for someone they expect a fuss from though!

I suspect both types have more issues that this going on, and I would see it as a sign to avoid as much as possible.

By modest celebration, I mean maybe cooking something they usually enjoy, not a party or anything like that, literally an evening meal they’d prefer more than other evening meals.

I hate fuss, so I’d never force fuss upon someone else. But if someone specifically requests no fuss, then that’s what they’ll get from me.