No dating during exam season!

[FreyaCel1ne]

My girls are crying their eyes out because I said no dating during exam time! It’s not even like I said that they are not allowed to talk to their boys or whatever, just not hanging out so much! How often should I let them hang out with their respective boys during exams?

How old are they?

It depends on what you mean. Dating makes it sound casual and certainly some sort of cutting down of social life might be appropriate. But then you say ‘their boys’ which makes it sound like boyfriends and surely you’re not banning them from seeing their boyfriends??

Is it not hanging out so much or no dating? Because they sound like two different things to me. You need to come to a reasonable compromise with them or they won't be revising they'll be mooning over the boyfriend they're not allowed to see.

They need down time too. Yabu.

Good grief! Unless there’s a mad background YABU. My friends and I managed clutches of As at A-level and to have boyfriends and a social life. In many cases the boyfriend was doing the same course so they genuinely revised together. And off we strolled to our university courses.

This is way more likely to upset them emotionally and cause problems that may well negatively affect their performance in exams - so this rule could end up having the opposite affect OP. Can you not sit down with them both and have a real discussion on their upcoming exams and what they feel they need to focus on and revise for?

OP that's crazy, exams are stressful enough

Wtf!

😂

I never understand the idea of taking someone’s person away from them at a stressful time in their lives. At no point in my life have I been approaching a stressful period and thought ‘now’s the time to cut myself off from my support system.’ Adults collect people around them for support when difficult things are coming up, why force the exact opposite on a child?

Good idea. My friends parents did that. She wasn't allowed out during exam time. She did however, spend a lot of time "round friends houses, revising together", including revision sleepovers.

So go ahead if you want your girls to lie to you about what they're up to.

😂😂 I love this place

DS and his girlfriend self-imposed the rule of only seeing each other on Saturday nights in the run up to exams. They had a phone call about 9.30 every evening. My parents never stopped me going out and I got good results.

Exams are really stressful. Your DC will need some down time, whatever works for them to de-stress and relax.

When my DDs were doing GCSEs one of their friends was having sex after each exam. I’m not recommending this btw. Her and the boyfriend were using the disabled toilet in school. No idea if any teachers found out.

This explains why I'm a genius.

How old are they? What sort of exams?

dear god 🤦‍♀️. That’s grim.

How old are they? And what do you mean by dating?

Very intrigued by the deleted comment everyone was laughing at.

Surely they could see their boyfriends on a Friday night and Saturday day or night

This has to be a fake poster!

My Dad was like this. It didn't make me work any harder. I sat in my room with a magazine inside a textbook full of burning resentment and then my boyfriend dumped me as I was no fun anymore so I hated him for that too.

When my DD had a very stressful exam-filled period this year, I sat her down and said she shouldn't be going out so much, as it invariably took a lot longer than she thought (getting ready/being out/coming back). But her BF could always come to our home and they could hang out and study together.
So for about a month, he or her best friend were over a lot, and she did not spend a lot of time hanging out with groups of girls.

thanks for the comments everyone, I thought one was particularly useful in that they plan their own time in regards to studying and meeting up with not just boyfriends but also friends 👍. I think I’ll just step in when it seems like they are not going with their own guidelines. Also one of mine is 17 and the other is 16. Cheers lovelies x❤️

It was grim, DD told me because she was shocked and had tell someone and didn’t want to “gossip” about her friend.