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Neighbour issues

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Anonymous201719 · 15/04/2024 19:38

AIBU, lived here for 2 years not a single issue, a new person moves in flat above issues start, had 2 years of these issues now(above is a middles ages woman and a 12 year old girl). I don’t just mean little things… so firstly, she would let her dog rip open bin bags outside my house then take pictures and reported to the council making out like I had dumped it outside. I had since installed a ring doorbell the day after it happened so I could prove further offences, although it did its job and it has acted as a deterrent as it has not happened since. Neighbour and her daughter constantly using my garden. The woman smokes drugs and does other drugs so god knows what’s left around and drug dealers coming daily. The daughter abuses my children, I have a SEN child and she regularly brings all the kids from the street to my front window to point and laugh at my child (she’s the only one doing it but she tries to encourage the others). She’s physically hit my nearly 2 y/o SEN child round the head with a bat. Pushed my other child over (5 y/o) and then told her it was a “cookie” that did it (bearing in mind this girl didn’t know I was watching as she only does things when she thinks she’s alone with children) since then I kept away and my kids do not leave the house for their safety, which means we now cannot use our garden. She’s abused the other children, took one girls shoes in the pouring rain and made her walk home bare foot, is verbally abusive, another older SEN child lives down the road and she exposed herself to him. She’s just nasty to every single child for no reason. She tried taking my neighbours 5 y/o to a bus stop “just to hang out” which gave us all bad vibes. She also abuses my cats, kicks at them, tries to slam bin lids on them (infront of her mum and she does nothing) Her mums too busy doing drugs to notice or even address this child. At night times she’s usually hoovering until 2am (you can hear it as if it’s in the same room) and she parks so that she takes up 2 parking spaces outside so that I can’t park and neither can anyone else. She’s reported absolutely everyone in the street for something, this woman down the road was telling her kids off and she reported them to social services, she reported a disabled vehicle and she also reported a business run from home, absolutely no one doing any harm and all of which were there peacefully doing their life before she turned up. Honestly this woman is just out to cause trouble. Her new favourite trick is to let her dog foul in my garden and laugh about it. This dog is never on a lead and constantly roams absolutely everywhere. No one likes her because of the way her and her daughter are, but anytime someone does speak up damage to their property happens. I’ve had my car scratched and my other neighbour has her fence put through and her garden gate drilled shut! She’s also given us all indirect threats about how she’s attacked her previous neighbour so “she’s not someone to mess with” she also leaves rodent food all over the communal path as well as shoes and whatever else she chucks outside to block the communal path. She’s installed 24/7 cctv system out there too without permission but no one will do anything! She’s reported me for benefit fraud too (which isn’t true) and even reported me to the council saying I don’t live at my house (I really wish that one was true😭)There’s so so much more but that’s a summary! Council don’t care and neither do police despite evidence! So I’m trapped and terrified in my own home, some people keep minimising it, am I being dramatic?

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DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 15/04/2024 19:43

I find it staggering that both the police and council dont care
what evidence did you provide?
What has your housing office done/suggested, etc
Have yo spoken to your coucilor re council and police?
The above you need to do if not already done so

I feel for you as it sounds horrendous

RedHelenB · 15/04/2024 19:55

If its a council house can you ask them to secure the garden so it's safe to use? Did you not go to the police about her hitting your child with a bat?

Dacadactyl · 15/04/2024 19:57

I'd report her to SS as being concerned for her child.

Luckycloverz · 15/04/2024 19:59

I would just move.
If honestly none of the services are helping you even after consistently reporting her, for your own sake just move on elsewhere if you're able to.

OKEMO · 27/07/2024 16:05

My neighbour constantly waves and makes comments about my CCTV camera, to the point everyone in the road now looks at it. I am entitled to have a CCTV camera and feel more secure knowing my property is safe. The police have already spoken with her because she got all her friends to give it the middle finger. That was 2 years ago and now she is starting all over again. I feel very upset and it is making me stressed. Can I do anything about this behaviour?

PonyPatter44 · 27/07/2024 16:24

I would be ASTONISHED if this loony isn't already well-known to social services and possibly the police as well. Are you all in social housing? I would be getting onto the council or the HA and making MANY complaints. I would also be getting onto social services and letting them know about neglect.

As a slightly more robust means of managing the problem in the meantime, do any of your neighbours have large unpleasant relatives who could pop round to her house and explain the facts of life to her?

OKEMO · 28/07/2024 22:32

My neighbour constantly waves and makes comments about my CCTV camera, to the point everyone in the road now looks at it. I am entitled to have a CCTV camera and feel more secure knowing my property is safe. The police have already spoken with her because she got all her friends to give it the middle finger. That was 2 years ago and now she is starting all over again. I feel very upset and it is making me stressed. Can I do anything about this behaviour?

seedsandseeds · 29/07/2024 02:21

OKEMO · 28/07/2024 22:32

My neighbour constantly waves and makes comments about my CCTV camera, to the point everyone in the road now looks at it. I am entitled to have a CCTV camera and feel more secure knowing my property is safe. The police have already spoken with her because she got all her friends to give it the middle finger. That was 2 years ago and now she is starting all over again. I feel very upset and it is making me stressed. Can I do anything about this behaviour?

Make your own post, bro

Redgreenfroggy · 29/07/2024 02:31

If they are purposely doing things directed at your daughter with SEN say to the police you want it treated as a hate crime and you want the diversity officer to be involved. Keep a paper trail and also contact your areas police and crime commissioner.
also if you google hate crime support in your area a lot of charities now have projects to support victims of crime especially hate crime. If you are in the north west I can signpost you to one.

Redgreenfroggy · 29/07/2024 02:35

If the police still don’t budge mention the Fiona Pilkington case. In fact if you google outcomes of the case it will tell you what support police and the council now have to offer. You may think the SEN part is not the biggest part of it but it is the part that may get the police and council to act.

Yourdemonsyourproblem · 29/07/2024 04:17

I had this issue twice, sometimes you can just rattle people demons by just living your life, usually it comes down to jealously and they are bullies unhappy with their own.
The child is a bully because her mum is.

Unfortunately the council and police don't care until someone gets hurt. Even with evidence. It's disgusting but in neighbour situations street justice is the only justice. Police class these things as "disputes" when they are harrassment

Salumthecat · 29/07/2024 04:42

I’m going through a similar thing OP, my neighbour was arrested with plenty of evidence but the police insist it’s a “civil matter”.

I rent privately and was here 10 years before the neighbours from hell moved in, there is literally no where to rent in my area and this has been my home for years and it’s perfect except for the neighbours.

I had one police officer who was sympathetic and keeps encouraging me to go to the council. I have ring doorbell footage but it’s not enough for the police. I’m so worn down with it and too scared to leave my home unless my partner is in, I had a cat sitter who said she was scared coming to feed the cat because of the neighbours.

Try with the council, it sounds like you have other neighbours to back you up, the hoovering at unsocial times can be recorded.
Get more CCTV, at least then you have evidence.

You have my absolute sympathy, I’ve had a breakdown with the stress mine have caused and it must be hell for you with you having children as well. Please don’t give up and let them push you out of your home, it sounds like it’s not just you who they are making miserable.

Can you get together with other neighbours and present evidence together or support each other?
Keep hassling the police, I was fobbed off for months until I literally went into the police station and broke down and begged them to do something. The officer in charge of the case pushed so hard to take it to court but CPS refused it. I did at least have 3 months where it was better when the neighbour was on bail.

I really hope it gets easier for you, no one deserves to feel like this in their own home. Keep on at the police and council and I wish you luck in getting results.

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