With my first dd mil used to snatch her out of my arms, pass her around the room and offer other people to feed her bottles.
Demand to push her pram etc she wanted to play mummy basically.
It came to ahead when she was 6 months old and I told dh to have a word.
She ended up crying to the whole family and they ended up hating me.
I put up with a lot back then; she came in to the delivery room uninvited and snatched her from my arms.
I’ve changed since, and I don’t let people take advantage of me anymore.
It is now years later and she’s more tactile this time on how she goes around her usual behaviour with my new baby.
I can’t change a nappy without her coming over to touch her without washing her hands. (I find it quite invasive as well)
I told her the other day, please remember our hand washing rule before touching my newborn. She walked off annoyed and started banging pots and pans in her kitchen.
I am okay with her hugging my children, blow kisses, holding hands and she knows this.
My only 2 boundaries are don’t snatch the baby and no kissing my newborn or one of my other dc who is immune compromised.
She asserts dominance over me by kissing dc constantly by making the over exaggerated kissing noise.
She is very passive aggressive in her comments to me.
She doesn’t snatch my youngest as she did with my eldest but she will state - I AM holding “dc name” now” and will walk over to me and take without asking.
Is it me or is this impolite of her?
I get its normal for her to want to hold grandchildren but I don’t feel this is the way to do it.
I have asked dh to have a word, he says he will.
Nothing has really changed from my eldest.
I feel she is just more clever now how she goes around doing things.
What exactly can I say to her if I’m confronted with “I AM holding your baby comment again?” Because I just freeze, like what on earth does someone say to that?!