To worry that DS will end up in isolation tomorrow

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DS (13) got his back to school haircut today. He's been going on his own for a good couple of years, so he knows what to ask for from his usual barber. The problem is that on this occasion, DS got a "high skin fade" haircut and which has resulted in his entire back and sides being shaved bald. He's had similar cuts at the start of the summer holidays before (which he really likes), when we don't have to worry about uniform rules. The issue is that he's gone and got this haircut the day before he goes back, so there's obviously no time for it to grow to a sufficient length. His school rules state that hair should be conservative and no shorter than a grade 2 in length. DS's hair is clearly much shorter than this, with his back and sides being smooth bald. I'm obviously quite disappointed in DS for this, as he knows the rules well and he's opted for a style none of the other boys at school have. DS is a good lad, and does well in his classes, so I'm concerned about the impact on him from spending a while in isolation. Am I overthinking this?

Actions have consequences. He chose, he knew, he'll have to suck it up if they do isolate him. There's not really anything else to say except that mummy will go with next time to tell the barber.

He can still learn bald. These rules are barmy.

He had it done knowing what the rules are about haircuts, as you say, so he must know that he should expect a consequence for breaking them.

Whether he thinks it’s a bad rule or not, he chose to ignore it. He might have to go to isolation. Is it possible he could have to stay at home until it grows?

Well, I imagine he'll have to live with the consequences of his choice.

I dislike rules like this, but he knew the deal when he got the haircut.

He knew. He’ll survive isolation. I can well imagine if ds12 did the same thing I’d wish him luck in the morning and laugh if he complained to me about it later.

I’m all for children expressing themselves but I’m also all for schools having rules. Fancy doing it the day before 🙄

Yep. He can learn in isolation so that he learns that breaking the rules has consequences as well as doing his curriculum learning.

OP - you are not overthinking it. He may be isolated if that’s the rules.

I’m not sure how to vote. Your DC deliberately got a haircut that he knows he wasn’t allowed. He will presumably have a punishment, yes.

My child's school bans "high maintenance" hairstyles... the logic being not that it effects your ability to learn... but to stop the children getting competitively expensive haircuts.

If your son deliberately chose to break the rules, then he can deal with the consequences.

He has to learn the consequences. If you step in and try to intervene with the teachers then you are not doing him any good at all. He knew the rules and he broke them. He pays the price now.

Presumably he can still get his school work done in isolation? What is the impact that you're worried about?

Regardless of isolation tomorrow, what happens after that in the week or two it'll take to grow to a 'school rules' length?

I guess you could try one of those 'hair fibre' sprays for covering up bald patches 😆

I think it's a silly rule really, my DSS goes to a school with no rules on hair cut/colour piercings etc and most of the kids still look fairly average, the ones who want to be a bit out there are able to express themselves and no one cares. I really don't think it's arguably necessary, and isolating them on appearance grounds is such an awful practice. Just creates an 'us against them' atmosphere.

Schools seem to have inexplicably lost their minds over haircuts, so yes he probably will be but it doesn’t mean he deserves it

It doesn’t matter if any of us think it’s an unnecessary rule. It’s the rule at that school.