To not take the stuff to the tip?!

[NotAllCapesWearHeroes]

Fellow vipers, I need a sense check (and possibly a grip)

Person X moved out of family home over a year ago and took the majority of their belongings.

Person Y remained in the family home.

Person X and Person Y agreed that Person Y would remain in the house and buy Person X out. Money has been transferred and divorce is nearly finalised.

Person Y asked Person X if they wanted to get the last bits of stuff so Person X drove over an hour to pick up the bits. When they got there, there was a room full of stuff that Person Y had dug out. Person X said they didn't want the stuff as it was all junk (think old birthday cards that Person Y had kept etc), a suitcase, old computer monitors etc, and Person Y was free to chuck it (FYI person Y has a van, Person X does not).

Person Y went mental that Person X has not collected the things and is now trying to stall the divorce. Person X thinks it's a massive fuss over nothing as the 'junk' was all things that Person Y wanted to keep anyway as they are a bit of a hoarder!

So... Is Person Y being unreasonable as they got the house and the contents or Person X as they should just suck it up and hire a van?

Oh and to avoid a drip feed, person X currently has a broken arm too

Person Y sounds like a dickhead.

Has the divorce and financial settlement been finalised? If yes, I would just text him and say ‘My arm is broken and I don’t need our joint accumulated junk. Please dispose of it as you see fit.’

Person Y can’t enforce person x collecting that stuff. Especially if it’s things that should just be thrown away. Technically person x owns it but honest to god, person y should just do what the rest of us do when an ex moves out and leaves their junk, and bin it. Especially as X can’t bloody lift any of it.

I’m guessing you are x? Send back a message saying something like “those items are either things you chose to keep yourself, or things that were already earmarked for disposal. Therefore it’s not my responsibility to dispose of those items in your house”.

While trickier with broken arm, best solution would have been to load it into the van together, and gone to tip together.

Person x sounds like hard work. Just bin the stuff like any normal person

Just take it to the tip.

No point in prolonging everyone’s misery over an hours trip.

I'm not actually person X or person Y. I am the new partner of Person X who doesn't want someone else's shite junking up my house!

It sounds like a big deal over nothing, but you’re clearly person X as it’s written in such a biased way.

I spot a name change fail!

Do I win a prize?

OP this is confusing, nc fail aside.

Person X who moved out has said person Y who remains in the property is to dispose of the remnants of the shared life, why would you have to have the remnants in your house?

I can't do yer x's, yer y's, yer z's - it fries my brain

Just condense and use partner and partners ex. Far more nonsense in the OP than needed.

The person with the house and the van should be dealing with it, not the person with the broken arm.

YABU for this "Person X" Person Y" shite

Rewrite this from your perspective, put what your position is, and ask whether YABU.

Y asked "X, do you want your belongings back"
X said "yes" and when to collect the stuff.
As X saw the stuff changed their mind and said "I don't want that shit".
Well, in my opinion, X should had said when Y asked. "No, I don't want anything"
In any case if is X crap, X is responsible for it.