Bf smoking weed?

[Concannon88]

So basically my bf said he doesn't smoke, but when we met he told me he used to smoke week, but he'd stopped a year before we met. Then it was dropped down to 9 months, and then 6 months. All a bit odd, but I've got a bit of stigma about it as ive had 2 boyfriends who out and out lied about not smoking, which i never understood because I've never mentioned whether I dislike smoking or not, just that I don't smoke.

Anyway, about 2 weeks ago he went on a camping trip for 3 nights that I wasn't invited on, with 2 friends who hes only recently got back in touch with (who seem a bit dodge) he accidently left his work laptop with them. So he arranged to head over to their place to pick it up and invited me along as its actually my home town and he knows I've not been back in 10 years. Well well well!!!! We were sat around chatting with them for about 20 mins when they started talking about the camping trip and how one of them fell in the river, and the other one said whilst pointing at my bf "you're a fine one to talk, you nearly burnt the tent down falling asleep with that spliff in your hand" and did an impression of him smoking!

I was shocked and embarrassed and I immediately looked at my bf and he just hung his head and would not look up for love nor money.

This is dodgy isn't it? I've got a feeling it wasn't a one off and there have been other situations that are starting to add up in my head now. I just can't believe how sneaky he is, I thought he was very honest. Or am I over reacting and its nothing to do with me?

Your choice as he wont change imo and has broken your trust. You are young judging by what you said.

At times, many lear well into a relationship the woes of the OH. Lucky for you, you've found out early so act on it

Somekng weed - no thank you

@DistinguishedSocialCommentator no not young, although he is younger

It may well be that be did give up smoking but just smoked weed on this camping holiday after a break from it. I would talk to him and ask him to come clean about what has been going on and why he hasn't been as truthful as he could have been.

Ok. You still have a choice as its your life and being lied to is never right or nice.

Good luck

Sounds like yeah he smoked weed with friends away camping and doesn't do it very often if he nearly burnt down a tent and he's a bit embarrassed bc you think he would never do this?

The lying is more important in my book but you're entitled to have an issue with it if you do ... nothing is compulsory to put up with in dating

I'd bin him.
I don't know where you are in your life or what you're looking for in a man, but zero chance I'd shackle myself to a pothead and certainly wouldn't breed with one.

There is a chance he could've just been smoking it on the camping trip with his mates, and doesn't normally smoke it?

Have you ever smelt it on him? I think it's quite hard to hide the smell of weed if he does it on a regular basis.

I'd have no problem with an adult choosing to have a joint when relaxing, I do it myself but I'd have a massive problem with the lying.

I couldn't trust him.

Its so hard to believe it was a one off. I think that's more odd. He originally told me he smoked it for 15 years and it was ruining his life, thats why he stopped. I can't understand someone who would then randomly smoke it again, just because his mates were. Like he's a teenager. I actually only have a weak sense of smell. I dont think he's been smoking it all the the time, but there are other social situations where I'm now thinking he definitely did.

Thats exactly my point. My parents smoked it and I think my dad may occasionally still do. Some im not massively uptight about it. However he knows the issue i had with a previous bf and how it made me feel like I was going mad. So I think it would be pretty cruel to do the same thing.