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Whose in the wrong here? In laws.

10 replies

InLawDrama · 13/04/2024 21:42

Had a good relationship with my in laws. Over the past few years it's slowly worsen. Got to the point last year where I went NC with them all, as they expected me to go above & beyond for them yet would never do anything to help me or DH/dc in return and would regularly throw it back in my face.

Started speaking to them again around Christmas time but I have been very distant, keep myself to myself as much as I can as I just do not enjoy their company they are very selfish people. I am only civil for DCs sake otherwise I would be happy to continue being nc.

Was my DN birthday and I got my children to text her from myself & them, assumed DH had also text DN happy birthday.

Got a nasty text this morning from SIL going off that I didn't text DN myself. 🙄 she's regularly forgotten my own DCs birthdays many, many times in the past and I've never called her out on it. My children text her I don't see what I've done wrong?
Was I in the wrong or are they just being overly dramatic?

OP posts:
BeyondMyWits · 13/04/2024 21:48

Nobody is wrong really...

You could have texted anyway, you didn't.
She could have been happy with the kids texting from you all. She wasn't.

Allthegoodnamesaregone1 · 13/04/2024 21:51

YANBU.
What a hypocritical bitch!
I would reply telling her to wind her neck in.

greengreyblue · 13/04/2024 21:54

She’s mentally unwell.

TruthorDie · 13/04/2024 21:56

They are. Sound like a pain in the arse family. Time for some distancing

PrettyPickle · 16/09/2024 12:47

I'd text my SIL back and say that contrary to what she obviously believes, you thought they would appreciate the youngsters texting from you all as surely she must realise that you prompted this? The good wishes were genuinely meant and the unkind tone of her text in response to what you believed was a lovely thoughtful message has really upset you and the kids. And I would just leave it there. Go low contact.

Lougle · 16/09/2024 12:48

I would think it's odd if the children messaged on behalf of their Mum, tbh.

SparkyBlue · 16/09/2024 12:51

They sound like the sort of people always looking to create a drama or an argument and they will find offence in the most innocuous things. I've come across that type before and I'd just avoid them as much as you possibly can.

Sapphire387 · 16/09/2024 12:54

Don't reply. Don't feed the drama. It'll drive her mad.

Brefugee · 16/09/2024 12:56

just ignore.

If you are ever f2f and she brings it up, say you are following her level of engagment with her nieces/nephews and leave it at that.

PrettyPickle · 16/09/2024 19:54

Lougle · 16/09/2024 12:48

I would think it's odd if the children messaged on behalf of their Mum, tbh.

My daughter in law gets the grandkids to text me all the time and I think it is lovely, she knows it makes it special for me.

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