To have called the parents for this behaviour?

[ShyPearlMoose]

Short version: would you want your babysitter to contact you on a date night if they were struggling with your child's behaviour?

I'm babysitting tonight for a 10 year old boy with autism and ADHD and an 8 year old girl. I've babysat for them for about a year with little problems and I also tutor them weekly, they're lovely kids and we have a good relationship. I'm 26, a student teacher and used to clean for the family before I started studying so that's how I know them.

Mum and dad went out for dinner tonight and as they were leaving confirmed that the kids both only had an hour of iPad time left which they both agreed to. The girl is fine coming off but I usually struggle for about 10 minutes to get the boy to come off before he listens. The iPads have a screen time setting on them so he knows he'll get caught out by his parents if he goes over, reminding him of this is what usually gets him off.

We did some painting together then the kids both had their iPad time from 7:30-8:30pm. I was giving them both 30, 15 minute and 5 minute warnings to make it easier for them to come off. Girl came off straight away but the boy wouldn't come off for about 10 minutes as usual then skulked off upstairs. He then came down with a different type of tablet in his hands (I think it was his parents') and started begging his sister for the code to get in. She said no as they weren't allowed. He started having a complete meltdown, crying, kicking her, throwing things, shouting and screaming. He grabbed his own iPad back and was giving me ultimatums. 'Either you get her to give me the code or I'll just play on this one.' It was nearing bed time at this point and I didn't know what to do as he was so irate so I text his mum saying I was struggling to get him to come off the iPad and if she knew something I could do. I knew if I left him to it he'd be on it until they got home which would look so bad on me and he wouldn't get enough sleep. She rang me straight away and asked to speak to him which just made things worse, he locked himself in the bathroom with his iPad and started banging on the door and shouting about how I was a traitor for telling on him.
Mum and dad were fine with me when they got home but I'm just concerned I ruined their night. They were just having dessert when she rang me.
Should I have waited until they got back to say something? Does this look bad on me?

There's nothing identifying in it really. So many families have similar situations. If it were me and I saw the post I'd be phoning the babysitter to make sure they were okay and offer extra reassurance that they'd done the right thing.

OP you sound like a fantastic babysitter and I'm sure the parents feel lucky to have found you.

No it does you really did the right thing here … your not employed by the kids .. any concerns should defo be reported to the parents well done you

Sounds like you did exactly the right thing.

I realise it was probably a really worrying situation but I had to chuckle at the boy calling you ‘a traitor’, as if you’d been selling state secrets to the Russians! The sheer drama in the way kids perceive things is incredible sometimes.

You sound like an excellent babysitter!

If I were the parent reading this, while I might recognise the situation as my family, nothing OP has put seems offensive and it would really only be recognisable to me, it's not like the rest of my family, friends and neighbours would read it and think it was me. Plus is probably being played out at dozens of houses up and down the country each night