To not know what to do?

[Newname71]

Name change for this one
Something happened when I was 13 (I’m 53 now) and I don’t know if I should bring it up or let it go.
I went into hospital for a lypoma removing. Before I went for surgery the anaesthetist (I think) came to see me.
He used his stethoscope to listen to my chest, while he had his hand inside my top he grabbed one of my breasts. I have NEVER told anyone about this and I don’t know what I expect if I were to raise the issue now? Who would I even raise it with? Is there any point, it was so long ago. I don’t dwell on it all the time but periodically (mainly when DH touches me there) it makes me feel a bit sick. Not sure why I’m posting but it’s a bit of a relief to tell someone.

I don't know what you should do but i just want to say I'm so sorry this happened to you and well done on speaking about it here.

Well done. Keep talking about it. Tell your husband. Each time you talk about it you give it less power.

How old was he OP? He may very well be dead now given your age at the time.

So your chances of seeing justice may be reduced, sadly if you were to pursue a prosecution.

If you need to address this in whatever way will help you, Ithink that's a good idea.
You will be believed and supported.

How dare he? I hope you find your anger, rather than the shame most of us deviate to. He should have felt shame. Not you.

I’m sorry this happened to you.
You might find talking to NAPAC helpful…
https://napac.org.uk/
They’ll listen, support, and go through your options 💐

I’m so sorry op. I think speaking to a charity who understand what you’re going through would be a good place to start. The Maggie Oliver Foundation will listen to you and help you explore how you feel and what you might choose to do next xxx

https://www.themaggieoliverfoundation.com/

I have a very similar story. I was possibly 11 and I'm heading towards 50 now. I was on a group organised tour holiday without my parents. A priest who was acting as a guide was giving kids hugs. He gave me a "hug" and groped me, wouldn't let go, whilst laughing. Unlike you I shouted get off + immediately told the adults. They believed me but honestly didn't know what to do. There was a lot of discussion + basically they just decided to keep him away from all the kids + ask him not to come to the social events.
I think its important to remember it was a different time. Even though I reported my priest, his job gave him a trusted status and immunity. I am guessing that you may wonder what would have happened if you had reported him. The sad fact is that it would have almost certainly been brushed under the carpet in your case too. I hope this might help you to settle your mind about never reporting it. I'm not saying its right, but it was a naive time where people easily believed these things were accidental because they couldn't imagine the horror of them being deliberate.
When I think about my incident, it also comes in my head wondering what that priest may have gone on to do to other kids. I wonder if you think about that too and that may be one of the reasons it sit with you. Personally, I always stop my mind trying to go down that way, because it is never the victims fault and anything these men went on to do after us was entirely their own fault.