Back story is that I am became a single mum in Oct and have employed a nanny since Nov for the 4 days that I work (wrap around care). She is my employee, all through PAYE etc. The nanny accidentally let slip in March, during a conversation about painkillers, that her doctor stopped her meds as she had stopped using contraception. I was a bit taken aback as I had only employed her in Nov.
I am currently applying for a promotion in my field of work that will allow me to drop to 3 days per week. There is one job available where I live and two that are an hour and half commute.
If I didn’t secure the job where I live but was offered a post in one of the other 2 positions my plan is to commute with a view to eventually relocate, but with the kids at school and house market as it is this would be at least a year away if not more.
The nanny saw that I had looked at a property online in the commuting city and became upset. She dropped into conversation that she was applying to college and was scared that I would give her notice. She went on to say she needs this job because she wants to have a baby.
AIBU to still consider relocation jobs. I feel selfish for thinking of what is best for me and not her situation.
Also if she were to become pregnant and I do relocate, would I be penalised for giving her notice?