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10 replies

Dancingwiththedrummer · 11/04/2024 15:13

Background - I get on well with my grandmother, we chat most days and I see her 1-2 times per month. Her and my sister do not get on. They had an argument years ago which resulted in NC. They do not follow each other on social media etc. I sometimes send grandmother pictures of my niece as she doesn’t see her much unless my mum takes her to see her which is maybe once a year. Niece is 5. My sister is fine with this and doesn’t have a problem with me sending them.

My sister was pregnant and has just given birth to my new nephew. Having girls myself and a neice was super excited got a new baby boy and took lots of pictures of him. I asked my sister if I could post them on Instagram as a couple of friends were asking how they both were she said yes (she’s not on Instagram) all fine.

My grandmother messaged me very upset that the pictures were posted on social media before she’d seen a picture of him. I apologised but was just so excited. She said it’s unforgivable and has now stopped talking to me. My mother had told her that my nephew had arrived, how much he weighed etc and not once did grandmother ask for a photo. My mum said it was a bit insensitive of me and my sister said she’s not getting involved.

Did I do anything wrong? Aibu? Not even my child so should be responsible for this?

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TayIor · 11/04/2024 17:32

I'd leave her with her NC, she's just shown you her true colours.

EveryoneJapan · 11/04/2024 17:37

Sounds like she won’t be talking to anyone at this rate.

I’d just leave no contacting you. You’ve done nothing wrong and it’s a ridiculous thing to stop speaking to someone about even if was.

calligraphee · 11/04/2024 17:40

She sounds really difficult. Leave her to it.

Spend more time with your sister and avoid this type of drama.

RampantIvy · 11/04/2024 17:43

She is behaving like a 6 year old, not an 86 (or whatever age she is) year old.

Emmadaily · 11/04/2024 17:50

Your gran doesn't sound that nice if she as stopped talking to you over something so trivial
You did nothing wrong in posting pictures to your friends sharing your good news .

Giraffesandbottoms · 11/04/2024 18:02

I think YWBU beforehand to send her anything - did your sister know about that? I have some extended family I am NC with and would be annoyed if my close family were directly sending them personal information about my children.

YANBU now though. But you had set a precedent.

BubziOwl · 11/04/2024 19:57

@Giraffesandbottoms the OP says that her sister knew and was fine with it.

OP, you did nothing wrong at all.

Redherringgull · 11/04/2024 20:11

What a load of fuss about nothing. You're fine, your DGM is BU.

Giraffesandbottoms · 11/04/2024 21:11

BubziOwl · 11/04/2024 19:57

@Giraffesandbottoms the OP says that her sister knew and was fine with it.

OP, you did nothing wrong at all.

I missed that! Sorry Op!

Dancingwiththedrummer · 11/04/2024 21:40

Thank you for the replies it’s just difficult sometimes to see if you’ve stepped out of line. Needed other opinions. Grandmother can be difficult sometimes and my mum often sides with her to keep the peace.

The argument between her and my sister was difficult at the time but nothing to do with my niece or anything that would harm her in anyway so my sister doesn’t stop grandmother from seeing her or me sending picture's of her. I always ask permission.

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